Why my husband looses his erection during sex?

[worriedwife81]

My husband and I have been married for almost 29 years. He just turned 47 and I am 46. We have I guess to say not had the best sex life.  In the beggining it was very nice. Then the kids started coming. We have 3 beautiful girls 26, 23 & 19. And we hardley ever had sex after they were born.  We were apart for 2 years ending 7 months ago. You see my husband was transfered and we decided I would stayed back home to let our youngest graduate high school there. So we only saw each ohter on the weekends. When I would come here it was wonderful. We were all alone. The sex was great. Then I moved here and the sex was off and on. More off than on again. So I decided that I wanted us back.  I Love my husband so much. And I know he loves me. The problem is he used to want sex all the time. He would raise to attention when I entered the bedroom. Well not any more. He does not seem interested even though we are alone. Now I have gained a few pounds.  I am not saying I am obese but I do need to loose about 15 pounds.  We both started going to a gym.  He needs to loose a few also. I also caught him watching porn one evening. He said someone sent it to him and he don't just watch it. So now I have the feeling he is just not sexually arroused by my body anymore becasue I don't look like the girls in the porn. He says he is but when I get into bed naked and lay on top of him kissing his neck and nothing happens he just says he is tired, then I can't beleive he is. I am not real sure about myself most of the time. I don't usually take charge like that. We talked about that and he says he likes it but most of the times I did he was not interested. So what am I to think. It does nothing for my self confidence at all. So I told him if he wants sex then he needs to let me know. I find myself just thinking of him and getting excited. So what is the problem. I think he only has sex with me most of the time becasue he senses I want to. Why can't he stay hard while we are having sex? I could see if we stopped but that is not the case, we can be in the middle of it. And just to add I am not one to just lay there. I help.  If I am giving him oral sex he is fine. And usually while he is giving me oral sex he is hard. But the last few times he is not. I mean if I start on him he does get hard.  Then we start having sex and after a bit he just goes soft. He does not ejaculate then go soft just goes soft. And then there are a few times that he can't ejaculate. So what am I to think? I am a horrible wife.  I can't even keep my husband interested during sex.  Please help.  Worriedwife

[william2711]

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[moreim02]

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[moreim02]

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[toncihk]

I was having trouble obtaining and maintaining a strong enough erection to make it through at least 10 minutes of sex with my bride. I had lost a lot of desire and my energy was way down also. I had tried many natural products with no success and lots of side effects including upset. Nothing seemed to work and i was tired of experimenting with other products. I decided to try  prolargentsize I am sure glad that i did. This product has just the right herbs in just the right combination for my body that has my energy up throughout the day and makes me harder

[shacar]

HealthyJackLikesSex,

You're full of crap with it being the man is NOT attracted anymore to the woman. That is in very few cases. Bye the way, who told you that you were healthy? AND who would broadcast that and that they like sex. Your user name says it all! You are vain and ARE putting women down! You're the one that just needs to face it. Blessings.

[shacar]

HealthyJackLikesSex,

You're full of crap with it being the man is NOT attracted anymore to the woman. That is in very few cases. Bye the way, who told you that you were healthy? AND who would broadcast that and that they like sex. Your user name says it all! You are vain and ARE putting women down! You're the one that just needs to face it.