erectile dysfunction

[bin4845]

Hi all,

  I'm bin 29 m,damn i'm in serious condition pals,hve got married 3months back,since then never ever had intercource with my partner.i was mastrubating for more than 15yrs.use to watch porn website like a devil.i dono wat to do,when i watch porn site alone i use to get errested  when i sleep with my partner i dont get erected.pls suggest me any ideas.i tried a lot of times no use.my bro is soft like a spong bob,when she touch,i pretend like having energy & ask her to do handjob every day.pls help me pals whether i can take any pills to get back my erection.i desperately need a kid.

[palpateit]

From what you said, your ED is porn related.

Many heavy porn users share your inability to get an erection without porn. Most come down with ED inless than your 15 years. On our recovery forums, we have men in their teens with porn-induced ED.

Your problem is in your brain, not your penis. ED caused by porn is not psychological, it is structural and biochemical.

Internet porn can become an addiction, and with all addictions the brain changes, or adapts. It does not matter if the addiction is to a substance or whether it is a behavioral addiction, the same brain changes result.

Today's internet porn is nothing at all like our ancestors ever encountered, with the constant novelty and genres of extreme porn. Unlike yesterday's Playboy, Internet porn overstimulates the brain structures responsible for libido, erections, and addiction.

Brain changes include a drop in dopamine receptors in the reward circuitry. Reducing the amount of dopamine receptors decreases your pleasure response to "normal" stimuli. In other words, real-life sexual partners and previous porn won't excite your brain enough to get your penis going. Turning on dopamine receptors is how you get turned on.

Here are two excellent presentations, by a science teacher, on the effects of pornography on the brain. They are non-religious, non-judgmental, and science based.

Erectile Dysfunction and Porn:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/erectile-dysfunction-and-porn

Your Brain on Porn - Porn Addiction:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/your-brain-on-porn-series

You have to get off porn, so you can get it up. Your brain needs trime to heal

[neiljeung]

Talk to her about it - see is she can help with a solution

[adkalanna]

first, RELAX, it's almost impossible to get an erection under pressure to preform.  make the time about being together, naked, and take it from there and what happens happens, what doesn't, doesn't.
second, how were things b4 the marriage?  have u asked ur partner to watch porn w/ u?  that could make all the difference.  maybe even a little porn roll play, put on some cheesy music and be the 'plumber whose *** to fix her pipes while hubbies at work'!  and she's the lonely/vulnerable house wife of a traveling salesman..
third, and why would u NEED a kid?  is it u or her that wants the child?  it should be both.  if ur hiding the fact that u don't really want or feel ready for children that could be putting a damper on things.  i have kids, and thinking about  them is the best way to ruin the mood!  
make it about u & her, nothing and no one else, and RELAX and have fun!
if still nothing, talk to your MD about med help but be sure to ask about side effects on reproduction, right?
good luck!