Everything makes me itch!!!!

[glorym95]

It started a year ago. My ex girlfriend would shout at me and hit me on a day to day basis, and it got to the point where every time she came near me, or touched me, it made my skin crawl so much so that I had to itch the sensation away. Now, I have a partner who I am completely in love with, and I want our relationship to be normal, but my itches are getting in the way! Everything makes me itch. When she lays her head on my chest, her hair itches me like crazy so I have to ask her to move and it upsets her. Hugging, sexual activities, her stroking my skin, holding her hand, even just things I do every day like sitting down or moving bed sheets off of me; they ALL make me itch. It's getting to the point where it is effecting my girlfriend's mental health. She thinks it's something she is doing wrong, but she has no idea how much I want her to be able to touch me without it causing these crazed itches. What the hell is it?! Help me, please!

[jemma116]

Because all this itching started with your previous girlfriend hitting you on a daily basis, this appears to be a psychological problem.

It may be that you have an allergy to things too.

I would suggest that you see your doctor to help you by referring you to a psychologist so they can work on getting rid of the metal side of the trauma.
And also put you on some antihistamine medication, in the event that you actually may have a sensitivity to some things.

In the meantime, I would explain to your girlfriend the problem that you have.  She will then be able to understand that it is not that you do not love her etc.  She may be able to go slowly and get you mentally conditioned again that she is not going to be hitting you, so there is then no need for you to feel on edge and start itching.  This will take time.

Also, in the event that you may have an allergy to things,. use non-biological detergents and the gentle fabric softeners.  

Every time to start to itch, talk to yourself by telling yourself that things are fine there is nothing to be afraid of, and that you are not going to be hit.
This type of counselling is called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

Don't use soaps and shower gels on your private area, because they can dry the skin and make it irritable and then itch.  Same for your girlfriend.

Best wishes.

[mandy876]

some times nerves will make you itch.  and maybe the soap can make you itch the doctor can give you pills to help stop the itching but it makes you drowsy. it sounds like y nerves.  but I am not a doctor.  need to go to your doctor and tell him.  good luck.  mandy876

[cdlavis]

Sounds like your brain thinks she will hit you etc and it's way of copeing. Fight or flight. You need to find a way of re teaching your brain in the way it thinks