Hey joggen, im on my fourth week now! I;m anxious! it's going to be hard for me to get to my 6th week and go test. I'll be so scared and I won't be able to sleep during that week. I don't want to think about it though, i am tired of being worried, really sometimes i wih id just go to sleep.
Also, i thought that if you had something like an open cut, that would increase the risks of hiv getting into your bloodstream?
Also, you're right...breaking off with him is the best thing i can do. I saw him last night. I hadn't seen him since the other night when we had sex. We had sex last night too. The condom stayed on the whole time and im sure about that. But i don't loike seeing him. I don't like sex with him. I've decided to just dissapear and not talk to him anymore. ugh, im a mess. I don't even know why i saw him.
But honestly, everytime i thought about leaving him i though that maybe i could get him to get tested. but yeah, so far he hasnt'. I asked him about his status. he said hes 100 percent hes clean.
The fact that you bled doesn't increase the risk. The odds are still in your favor. I understand preparing for the worst- that comes with HIV Anxiety- but from my perspective it is premature to assume you are positive at this stage.
As good as it would be for you to know his status, I don't think you should attempt to do that by continuing to date him, considering what happened. If he isn't sincere about getting tested then it is probably best to break off contact with him.
oops, thats supposed to be "what happened THAT night not LAST...lol sry
Update time:
Joggen, you're probably right. It's cold and flu seas and everyones getting it. But i don't know...I rarely felt sick, I was fine, just a sneeze here and there, but yesterday i lost my voice. my trhoat doesnt hurt, it just feels raspy and it's hard to speak.
Anyway, I'm not anxious anymore...not at all, the whole thing has progressed to something else. Now, it's more like...resignation. I'm making plans about my new life. instead of anxiety attacks, i get depression attacks. Last night, i was talking to this friend of my and we had made plans to go to Europe once we graduated, but now it's like ugh...I can't go because of this new thing. Nothing gets me excited anymore.
I also have been talking to Mas (the guy whom 'I had sex with') and I've told him I do want to see him again, because he keeps insisting and he says he wasnts to get to know me better etc etc. We hadn't talked about what happened last night in his car. But last night we were supposed to go have dinner (but then i told him i was really really sick and couldnt) and he also kind of apologized for what happened. He said he had had a little too many drinks and he thought I was just faking the whole thing until he noticed i was crying.
Anyways, he told me he'd call tonight to see if i was better and wanted to go out.
I don't want to see him anymore, im not interested....I just want to forget about it all and move on -infected or not. The only reason why i keep answering his calls is because I've been trying to get him to get tested and he always says: ill do it this week i promise, but then he's too busy. Last ngith i talked to him about it again and he said he'd get tested next week because this one is a crazy week. I don't know if he's scared or maybe he thinks he's really clean and doens't need to get tested. But if he tested negative...well, I can be a little more confient that ill be neg. too. But if he testes positive, then ill be positive for sure. Why? cause i realized I had bled while having sex.
Anyway, god, i always write too much! blah!
Colds, flu, etc. are NOT signs of HIV infection. It's cold and flu SEASON- almost everybody is going to get sick, for crying out loud. I just came out of a nasty, lingering cold, that eventually infected my lungs, and I wasn't the least bit considered about HIV.
I still think a PCR (RNA) test might be available to you through a physician, like an infectious disease specialist. But I don't want to push it on you- it's just an option worth considering. The downside to the PCR is that it has a relatively higher rate of false positives than antibody testing.
Look at it this way- you've made it past two weeks already, and you are not as anxious as you were when you first came here. If you've waited this long, you can wait until six weeks. Take it one day at a time.
Thanks Joggen. I've decided I'm going to wait until six weeks to be confident. Then I'll test at three months -if they don't tell me before that i indeed am infected.
My anxiety is not as bad as it was at first. But I'm still uh, i don't even know how to explain. I'm tired, i'm tired of being worried...i just wanna get it over with... last week I was in a very positive mood...but since tuesday that changed. And the reason why is because i developed this cold/flu thing. I mean, what a coinsidence that the i got it at two weeks after my exposure...
I don't know...i think i should begin to think about what i'm going to do with my new life.