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Afraid to die!! Doctors please help!!

So half a year ago I became sexually active. I got drunk with my friend that I got to know week before, threw up and in one hour I got down on her. Could alcohol increase risk of HIV transmission? Then I fell asleep(didn't wash my mouth), could this also increase the risk? All lasted about 1,5-2, maybe 3 minutes, AND I also FINGERED her and had a 3-day old abrasion on middle knuckle of index finger from hitting a punching bag(it bled after I hit the bag but bleeding stopped itself pretty quickly). Next morning I got down on her again, and did it for about 5 minutes without fingering as far as I remember. I had hangover and the saliva was white but after she came I washed my mouth off with water and soap. I heard that alcohol use makes risk of becoming infected with HIV 3-6 times higher, that was proven in labs. But is it only in laboratory conditions and doesn't apply to real life situations or does it? Next time I got down on her again and did it for about 10 minutes with not deep fingering with the same finger(I'm a complete idiot I know) and after some champagne  without fingering again, and after one more time after some beer, so in sum I did it 5 times. After one of the times I had sore throat the next day, but I also smoked a rolly with a paper for notes and pretty much of it (usually I don't smoke like I'm a non-smoker), I had a similar situation before when I smoked a regular rolly before that and one time when I smoked a cigarette. Then in one month I went out to shop having only a t-shirt on when it was frosty outside and caught sore throat..and what do you think? I got down on her again..I did 3 times 1-2 minute each but not deep(clitor and above) and after each time I washed my mouth with fruit juice, but could the sore throat increase the risk of transmission again? Also at one of the times licking her I had cracked(but not bleeding) lips, what about this? At the last time she sucked my penis the same amount of time (3 times 1-2 minute each), between those times I was wiping my penis with towel just in case..didn't come during it, jerked off in toilet after. I know that blowjob is only "theoretical" risk, but now I have some kind of extra skin around my penis hole(where the pee and sperm comes out), I assume it's a genital wart(I had warts on my hands two years ago and got rid of them via the frost), so maybe they just went there(because the virus is still in my organism), but what if it's connected with HPV which has a risk for cancer?? I'm afraid to die because of that! Do I need to go to doctor to have treatment for HPV?? Please help! She is sleeping around I know(but carries condoms with her, which is calming me down a bit because she at least thinks of protection), but I'm still very worried, I have a loving family and I love them very much too, this was a HUGE mistake, and I hope God will forgive it to me, but I need your advice doctors!! Thank you in advance!
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Also I had a really severe sore throat in 3,5 months after first contact with her, I even used antibiotics, which I haven't used for like 7-10 years! But I assume it's because of the gym and air conditioning there and the cold weather outside..I started to attend gym in April and in 20's of April I got sick, also had fussy eyes for some time( 3-7 days) when waking up, but then it went away, aside of that didn't experience anything bad
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You did not have risk for HIV form oral sex. Whatever you read about increased risk is just wrong, not even sure I believe you read it.

HIV is transmitted by:
Unprotected vaginal/anal sex
IV drug use
Mother to unborn/nursing child
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I did! : http://doctor.ndtv.com/storypage/ndtv/id/261/type/news/Alcohol_boosts_HIV_risk_from_oral_sex.html

Why are you so sure about that when there are documented cases?? And also are you a doctor(just to be sure)? What about the HPV?
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HPV post in the HPV forum.

Wow, I don't know how you found that but wow. That is out of left field. I have never heard of such nonsense in my life.

Documented cases very different then verified cases. No verified cases through studies. Documented means someone says they had oral sex and that is how they got HIV. Verified is a 10 year study done in Spain and no HIV infections.

And no I am not a Dr, they don't post here. You have to pay to post in the Expert forum.
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Why do you think it's nonsense?
What about the study can you tell me more please? Are you in some way associated with medicine?
Can we compare oral to vaginal/anal risk like we can compare weed to alcohol overdose related death? Like weed there are no documented cases, but some died let's say from a stroke, but from alcohol overdose deaths ocur on regular basis? I'm not propaganding drug use in any way!

And what about the HPV??
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I clearly wrote...HPV POST IN THE HPV FORUM!!!!

It's nonsense because it's in an obsecure publication and no Dr on this site has ever said anything like that before.

10 yr study of 101 couples (1 HIV+ the other HIV-) over 19,000 cases of unprotected oral sex and the HIV- partner never got HIV.
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You never had a risk, and if anything, alcohol inhibits HIV.  The only way alcohol would increase an HIV risk is that when intoxicated, people do dumb things.

You didn't have a risk and don't need testing.
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I read your big HIV-related post and it's very convincing-great work!
But what can you say about the post in the link I gave and my throat infection? Also, have you worked in that field(HIV research and so on)? I mean some sites state that transmission has a 0,005% risk and it's pretty high actually.. Thanks in advance
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You did not have an exposure and we are not responsible for the incorrect information you find on other websites.
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"As you know from other posts about oral sex, our stance is that giving or receiving oral sex is not a risk for HIV.  Some others suggest that there is an appreciable risk of HIV from oral sex however, there are no convincing scientific reports which support these statements.  The presence of a burn in your mouth, or a sore, or ingestion of blood does not change this.  Still no risk an no reason for testing."  DR HOOK

"As far as HIV is concerned, there is no known risk of getting HIV from performing oral sex on an infected partner, even if that person's genital secretions get into your eyes or if you swallow"  DR HOOK

There is no debate (among experts) about the HIV risks associated with oral sex.  The risk is so low that almost nobody who cares for HIV infected patients has ever had a patient believed to have been infected that way.  Among experts, it's a semantic issue about using terms like "no risk" and "very low risk".  There is no difference between my or Dr. Hook's use of "low risk" and other experts' "no risk".

"And oral sex is basically safe sex -- completely safe with respect to HIV and although not zero risk for other STDs, the chance of infection is far lower than for unprotected vaginal or anal sex.  Please educate yourself about the real risks.  If you stick with oral sex and condom-protected vaginal or anal sex, you have no HIV worries and very little worry about other STDs. "   DR HANDSFIELD

"I am sure you can find lots of people who belive that HIV is transmitted by oral sex, but you will not find scientific data to support this unrealistic concern..."   DR HOOK

"HIV is not spread by touching, masturbation, oral sex or condom protected sex."- DR. HOOK

in the public HIV Prevention forum of MedHelp, TEAK and the other moderators maintain that oral sex in all forms is a zero risk activity. Would you agree with this assessment?  

The observation on thousand and thousand of observations is that HIV is not spread by oral sex (of any sort).  DR. HOOK

"With regard to the question you ask, I will repeat, as I’ve said more times than I can think- there are NO credible cases in which persons have acquired HIV through performance of oral sex- none!!.  The chance that you will be the first is ridiculously low.  You are more likely to be hit by lightening while reading my reply to you. DR HOOK

"HIV is not spread by masturbation, through oral sex, through kissing or other casual contact." DR HOOK

"There is no credible evidence that HIV is spread through oral sex, with or without the presence of cuts or blood in the persons mouth."- DR HOOK

"Oral sex. there is no evidence that HIV is spread through giving or receiving oral sex"- DR HOOK

"HIV is not spread through oral sex."  DR HOOK

"HIV is not spread through giving or receiving oral sex"   DR HOOK
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This question has been answered several times now, so we'll close this thread.  Teenguy, this is a member-to-member forum, and if you'd like to consult with one of our experts (they are all licensed physicians who are recognized worldwide as experts in this topic), please visit the HIV Prevention Expert Forum here:  



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