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Cannot accept what I’ve read - please help

Hi, I have read this site for a few days now but I am having trouble finding my exact scenario. Can you please advise if I am at risk and need to test?

2 weeks ago
Had encounter with TS female and here are the things I can’t stop thinking about.

Deep French kissing (I bit my lip eating earlier in the day and it bled a decent amount). Is this a risk because I bled a few hours before?

She gave me an unprotected blowjob. I know from reading here that I shouldn’t worry about this. Easier said than done.  

I masturbated his/her penis with my saliva as lube. A couple times I licked my hand for more lube (saliva). What if his/her seminal fluid got on my hand while masturbating her/him and then I licked it with my tongue or mouth? Is this a risk ?

After I masturbated him/her I masturbated my own penis. What if there was fluid from him/her on my hand from masturbating them just a few seconds earlier ?  Is this a risk ?

We rubbed penises together with saliva (both of our saliva). What if their semen was present at this point and it rubbed on my hand and/or on my penis?  Is this a risk ?

Overall, can you please assess this and do I need to take a test in the future based on this event ?

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Since you have clearly read other posts on this site, you know what I am going to say. The only risks for HIV in adults are:
1) Having unprotected (no condom) penetrative anal or vaginal sex, OR
2) Sharing IV drug equipment with other IV drug users.

Nothing you did put you at risk for HIV.  You can't get any disease from masturbating someone, and you cannot get HIV from bodily fluid UNLESS your unprotected penis is inside a vagina or anus, or someone else's unprotected penis is inside your anus.
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (hand, body,  fluids, mouth, maybe blood, etc. ). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
I'm not sure why you don't understand the only 3 since you've read posts here, and they are all the same, no matter who is giving the advice.
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Thank you both.   Means a lot to me. Maybe I need some behavioral health support.  It’s like a can’t connect the dots that I am going to be OK. Guilt, shame play into it I would assume. Our minds are powerful. Thanks again.
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