Okay, first thing. Yes, unprotected intercourse is a risk whether he ejaculated or not. So, you did have a risk. Second, you have adequately tested negative to be confident you did not get HIV from the encounter. Your test on day 34 will not change. You can go ahead and test at day 45 if you feel it is necessary but it will be negative. I understand the over testing to some degree but this also sounds like a known partner that you had sex with. Is that correct? You say "WE" tested negative in August. That implies you've known him. And the likelihood of his being HIV positive since his last test is low, wouldn't you agree? AND, the statistics are such that a 1 time sexual episode like you describe is less than 1 percent risk. Are you dating this person? At some point, couples do begin to have unprotected sex after mutual testing and agreement of monogamy. Not sure where you are at with that. But if it is a person you have casual sex with, using a condom with them is definitely necessary. While you fear you have more risk because you have hsv2, that doesn't make you 'high' risk. It just means transmission would happen a bit easier. But it is not high risk. And the percentage is still less than 1 percent risk of transmission.
If you must for peace of mind, test at 45 days but it WILL be negative. And no, absolutely do not test at 6 months. Your lip,tongue issue are not related to HIV by the way. And if you are very anxious, that is something to work on so you can have a less stressful time being a sexual human being as we all should be.