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[Overlystressed]

Happydaze or Teak,

Need help again. I went to a licensed massage therapist for a massage.  During the massage one thing led to another and got a hand job and sucked breast.  I wasnt worried since i knew this was safe.  The 2nd time i went to the same massage therapist i guess i expected the same thing at the end of the session.  But i got oral sex without a condom and then protected sex with a condom.  I also sucked her breast.  When i did suck her breast a layer of something ended up in my mouth.  She has a child that is 1 year old.  I think she was still lactating and i sucked off the dried milk.  I did ask her before this happened if she was free of diseases since im a worrier and she said she was clean and i have nothing to worry about.  But i dont know if i should believe her, she might give this to other clients.  Oral sex was 30 seconds at most.  I wasnt to worried about this incident but now a week after i have body aches, throat feels dry/scratchy, headaches, neckaches shooting up the back of my head, and stuffy/runny nose.  Could i have caught HIV from these incidents?  Do you recommend i get tested?

Im concerned about the dried milk off her breast.  I know it was something when i first licked it.  The oral sex was short and i dont think the condom broke during intercourse.  Yup im stuipd.  My wife is pregnant and i made these mistakes in the past.  Please help!

Thanks

[happydaze]

I'm not here to judge anyone's behavior.  Nobody here can judge anybody else.  You cheated on your wife.  That's your problem and doesn't have anything to do with the advice you should get.  What you do is your own business.  This  site is here to provide people with information about risks they've had.  This allows people to get better educated about HIV prevention and take better care of themselves by making informed choices about their actions.   The only thing I will say about your cheating is that it is more than likely driving your fear/guilt, etc. and creating this irrational anxiety that you seem to have about HIV.

Having said ALL of that.  You did not do anything that put you at risk for HIV.  Period.  Nothing.  oral sex, protected intercourse, breast/nipple sucking.  No risk.  Keep using condoms for anal/vaginal sex and you will avoid HIV.  Not much more to it.

[Overlystressed]

Thanks Teak!

[Teak]

Not to an adult.

[Overlystressed]

The milk from the breast is a non issue?  I know when i licked her breast there was some kind of layer that came off.  Since she has a 1 year old child.  I assume it was dried milk.  Or maybe it was a scab.  That wouldnt be too good either.  So its only from mother to child, never from adult sucking breast milk, scabs, puss, etc.?  

Thanks

[Teak]

You were never at risk of contracting HIV. Married or not the ways you contract HIV is by having unprotected anal or vaginal sex, sharing works with other drug abusers or from mother to child.

[Overlystressed]

Maybe i should have left out the pregnant part in the first post so the answers i get from the knowledgable people will be just my risks.  

[mnbamb]

Recently I went to see one of those people that you sit and talk with, WHY, cause of the market and the amount of money that was lost. No big deal though, but still. Anyways go and talk to someone cause pretty soon your gonna change your name from overlystressed  to OVERLYHAPPY.

[Overlystressed]

I totally agree.  I screwed up AGAIN.  A lot of people posting on this site are married or have a boyfriend/girlfriend.  Yes my wife is pregnant so im posting on this site to see my risks before i have any sex with my wife.  I dont want to hurt my wife or the baby.

[Overlystressed]

Please answer.

Thanks