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Hello,
I had unprotected vaginal and oral sex with a girl, after which I tested negative at 65, 77 and 83 days. Are these test conclusive and I should not re-test? I am still worried what if it can take more time, or what if it will come to me later in my life.
Before the last test (2 days before it) I had also unprotected oral sex from a hiv positive girl-she gave me a blow job, and I fingered her deep for about 3 minutes- that day (around 3 hours before this) I cut my finger-the finger I was fingering her with. There was blood immedietaly after the cut, but I didn´t notice any blood while fingering her.
Due to these 2 situations, should I test now? Or can I be absolutely calm and sleep with my GF without any doubt I can have HIV? My GF is negative.
Thank you very much
I had unprotected vaginal and oral sex with a girl, after which I tested negative at 65, 77 and 83 days. Are these test conclusive and I should not re-test? I am still worried what if it can take more time, or what if it will come to me later in my life.
Before the last test (2 days before it) I had also unprotected oral sex from a hiv positive girl-she gave me a blow job, and I fingered her deep for about 3 minutes- that day (around 3 hours before this) I cut my finger-the finger I was fingering her with. There was blood immedietaly after the cut, but I didn´t notice any blood while fingering her.
Due to these 2 situations, should I test now? Or can I be absolutely calm and sleep with my GF without any doubt I can have HIV? My GF is negative.
Thank you very much
COMMUNITY LEADER
Finger incident (hand to genital contact) and receptive oral, both have no risk
Ok thank you. The prior incident after which I tested negative after 83 days won´t change either? I am really scared of a positive result and I don´t know if I can wait and go for the test, so I am trying to find other solution. But when I am trying to forget about that I remember of it and think that I am missing something and I didn´t do everything I could to be sure...
COMMUNITY LEADER
Yes anxiety plays an important role in such situations. Although your risk is non existent when consider your last contact of oral sex and hand to genital contact, however, sometime nothing is acceptable to some of us, other than a test report printed with "non-reactive" or "negative" to get a complete peace of mind. And I am sure you are one of those very careful and conscious persons.
You may wait for another 3 months to get your conclusive report (which will certainly be negative, I am sure) only to get peace of mind and throw all your HIV related worries away permanently
You may wait for another 3 months to get your conclusive report (which will certainly be negative, I am sure) only to get peace of mind and throw all your HIV related worries away permanently
Well it isnt a guilt, since I told my GF everything about that, and she is calm and saying I am healthy, but I am still worried and thinking what if it will come up somewhere in the future while we will be planning kids or something, I just want to be 100 percent sure I am ok for her. It is really hard for me to forget all about this, still thinking I need another test. What do you think? Just a stupid anxiety? and if I take the test it will come up negative?
COMMUNITY LEADER
It is good to note your sense of responsibility and care for the one you are in love with. If you believe me, it is your guilt, not the infection which keeps you out of your comfort zone.
Rest assured, oral sex and hand to genital contact, both have nothing to do with HIV transmission. You are fine. There would have been a slight possibility of HIV transmission if your fingers were bleeding profusely, however in such situation, a better place for you was an emergency room of a clinic, not a bedroom with your partner, so throw all irrational thoughts out of your mind and move on with your life and your life partner
Rest assured, oral sex and hand to genital contact, both have nothing to do with HIV transmission. You are fine. There would have been a slight possibility of HIV transmission if your fingers were bleeding profusely, however in such situation, a better place for you was an emergency room of a clinic, not a bedroom with your partner, so throw all irrational thoughts out of your mind and move on with your life and your life partner
Thank you for the response, even the finger incident is no risk? Her vaginal fluids and my cut on the finger?
I have the best GF in the world and now I am just so worried that I could expose her to the HIV due to my stupid mistake. Still thinking what if the 83 day test wasn´t enough and then the blowjob and fingering thing happened and I didn´t have test for that. Are you sure I am negative? These two are the only things that happened to me. I am really scared to take the test now, scared of positive result.
I have the best GF in the world and now I am just so worried that I could expose her to the HIV due to my stupid mistake. Still thinking what if the 83 day test wasn´t enough and then the blowjob and fingering thing happened and I didn´t have test for that. Are you sure I am negative? These two are the only things that happened to me. I am really scared to take the test now, scared of positive result.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Your 83 days (just one day short of 12 weeks) is conclusive. Possibility of any infection due to your unprotected vaginal sex is ruled out. The second incident of receptive oral sex with an HIV+ partner does not put you under any risk of HIV. Please note that all the scenarios and assessments made here, are done keeping in mind a + partner because if both of them are negative, there is no question of transmission naturally.
You do not have HIV, just a small piece of advice,,, Never go for unprotected vaginal or anal penetration with anyone, outside your mutually committed monogamous relationship
You do not have HIV, just a small piece of advice,,, Never go for unprotected vaginal or anal penetration with anyone, outside your mutually committed monogamous relationship
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