Usually feel safe but some slight changes have thrown me

[scaredsillyt]

Hey,

Have had huge anxiety (admittedly irrationally...) over HIV in the past and my actions this morning have sent me back into this whirl wind...

I met a stranger two weeks ago and we mutually masturbated each other, for quite a while, he did this with my foreskin peeled back which was obviously slightly uncomfortable after a while so i asked he was more gentle...which he did, As i was about to cum he decided to suck me off. Couldnt really have been for more than 15-30 seconds in reality, he didnt really spit or swallow he took it in his mouth and sucked me for a couple of seconds laters and then stopped, i cleaned myself up...I really don't need to test over him sucking me off for a short time with regards to hiv do i? Even with how rough he was with my penis beforehand....I think the head of my penis seems quite resilliant but now i have a fairly proportionate red rash which i think is likely to be from friction...Would you say this puts me at risk of hiv? This was the sort of generic question...

The not so generic question, and hopefully a silly one. I have a filthy habit of biting my nails...TUT! about 5-6 hours before the episode, in bed i bit my thumb nail tht slight bit too low...you know when it hurts? I cant say it bled, but its hurting today so guessing the trauma is a cut under the nail. Whilst masturbating him when we met this morning he pre-came..i was playing with the head of his penis under his foreskin where the pre-cum was, with that thumb. 5ish hours after biting the nail off...Now im pretty sure this question is silly but please tell me! Is it possible his pre-cum would be enough to infect me through such a tiny wound that i've not noticed bleed but it just painful to use for certain tasks, hence the need to stop biting nails. After we finished we chatted for a while about lifestyles a bit more and he seems to get around far more than he initially suggested, fine, lifestyle choice and our session today was mild its just getting me back into my state of panic. Does pre-cum and superficial, not fresh wounds really allow a realistic route for transmission.

I would be really grateful for some support here however trivial or misinformed it may seem (i sort of know the answers im just not listening to my brain being rational.) This will hopefully stop me panicking and put things in perspective. Obviously testing for anxiety might be good but is there any clinical reason to from this, i know im negative before it and i dont want to get to the point of obsessing about the date i can test when its not necessary. If its not a risk, why isnt it? If i came into contact with saliva which obviously i did, or if he had small amounts of blood in his mouth? cheers

[scaredsillyt]

Vance, thats lovely.

I know it must get tiring posting about deemed "no risk" replies often, but that little bit of extra information reassures me greatly.

Symptoms are **** with regards to diagnosing yourself, i'm aware but my fear has come from a faint rash across my torso for two-three days and a fever that didn't reach above 37.6 degrees celsius.

That in itself convinced me "it" as in "sero-conversion" was happening but typical ARS involves an obvious rash and a high high temperature anyway doesnt it. Mind games are just dangerous and thankfully fear doesn't change science.

[Vance2335]

Oral sex is safe for several reasons...1. There has never been a verified cases of HIV from oral sex...you will not be the 1st. 2. Saliva has enzymes that inhibit the virus. 3. If there was a little blood in someones mouth not only would saliva deactivate it, but so would the oxygen in the mouth and it takes more then a little amount of any fluid to transmit HIV.

[scaredsillyt]

yes, but I cannot find a reason as to why its not a risk, i know its not your job to sit and rattle off reasons but how is it not possible if you could get secretions or blood into your urethra like with anal or vaginal sex with the urethra as a point of entry for hiv.

I dont understand why its safe....If you could help I would be very grateful Lizzie.

Thanks

[LIZZIE LOU]

re-read what i just told you.

[scaredsillyt]

So no concern from the oral i was given either? Why is it not a route for transmission?

[LIZZIE LOU]

If its not a risk, why isnt it?

hiv is not transmitted in the manner that you have described...it takes place inside the body...not through masturbation.  transmission requires penetration.

hiv IS transmitted through...
unprotected vaginal/anal intercourse
sharing iv drug works
mother to child

i hope that in the time that you have been waiting for an answer, that you took the time to read the thousands of posts here.  

[scaredsillyt]

anyone?