Risk Level, Chances I contracted HIV, Really Worried, Male encounter with a Female says she's negative.

[kyle10]

Hi Dr. and others,


In the middle of July 2009 (approximatly 10 weeks ago) I had unprotected sex with a 19/20 year old female from the town over from me. I live in a high income area, her town is similar to mine in that regard, and she's white(not that race has anything to do with HIV transmission). I don't know if that will help any of you who read this but I figure you should probably know all I do. I have been worry a lot since my encounter and do not know why. I am a 21 year old male, has had sex twice in his life, once protected, and then this time, which was unprotected. I hear it is much harder for a male to get HIV from a female even if she is positive, but I'm still a bit tight on the matter. So, here we go.

1. I have a little bit of acne on the right side of my back but I'm assuming that's from working out at the gym everyday. But, is acne a sign of HIV?
2. I have been tired the past 2 days but I'm figuring that's from staying up till 2am and waking up at 8am.
3. I have a rash under each armpit, but I use OLD SPICE RED ZONE, and I hear that causes rashes, it even says on the bottle that it does. I have no rashes anywhere else.
3. No Weightloss, infact since then, I've set highs in all my gym workouts weight wise, and I have gained about 6/7 pounds of muscle.
3. I have seen no other symptoms, and have not felt anything that would relate to HIV or any other STD, on my body or groin area.
4. The sex was about 10/15 minutes in length.
5. She has told me that she doesn't have HIV. She did drugs but NEVER needles she said.
I no longer talk to the girl because she got mad at me for asking people in her town about her. Everyone I spoke to about the matter says she Definitely DOES NOT HAVE HIV, and one kid i spoke with recently said he'd be very surprised if she had anything at all. She stressed to me that she never did anything like this before and she and others have said she had a boyfriend for about 6 months prior to this. She also told me, "I'm done trying to convince you, believe what you want." in one text after I repeatedly asked her if she had any STD's at all, even something small like herpes. Does that sound to anyone like someone who is hiding something from you?
6. What is my level of risk
7. I am circumsized

I'm sorry, I'm just really stressed, I made a mistake and I hope it doesnt ruin my life. The people even tell me you should be more worried about having a kid than HIV.

Am I stressing out too much?

Thanks alot,

Kyle10

[andyloe]

You had unprotected SEX , and you can't judge anybody from their look, age and from where that they have or don't have HIV.

the only way to know your status is TESTING.

[joggen]

The doctors don' t read the posts here.

Your worry and behavior is completely out of proportion to the risk here. Less than 1 out of 1000 women in the US who are not injection drug users or CSWs have HIV. And even if your partner had it, the risk from a one time vaginal exposure is 1 in 1000.

When you do the math, the chance that you got infected with HIV from this girl is less than 1 in a million. I hope that number sinks in for you, and you realize how inappropriate your reactions were relative to the risks here. If it doesn't, please read my journal for comparison to other, far more common risks for some perspective.

If you get a test two weeks from now (i.e. at 12 weeks), the negative result that you are almost certain to get will be conclusive, and you can move on.