I am a gay male. About three weeks ago I recieved protected anal sex. I was extremely drunk and am not sure of the his HIV status. I was unaware at the time that you can not use hand lotion with latex condoms. I didn't have any lube available so we made do. I have not had any of the acute hiv symptoms other than an upset stomach for the past 2 days and a small cough. All of my friends are sick around me so that could easly be the reason. The problem is i have a guy that i have been talking to and days after my intercoarse me and him exchanged oral sex. I did not ejaculate, but this week he has gotten extremely sick. Some of his illnesses have been upset stomach, coughing, fever, and nauseua. I checked the condom after intercoarse and there did not appear to be any breaks. I took a rapid test on the 3 week marker, it came back negative. I will definately be going back at the 6 and 12 week markers but i wanted some opinions on how conclusive my 3 week test was. and also, just how damaging can hand lotion be to a condom.. again i didn't see any breaks in the condom but could the lotion cause tiny holes in the condom, making it completely useless? thanks for your help!