getting a source for your statistic would make me feel MUCH better

[TRJ279]

I've read in numerous posts that the chance of a male becoming infected with HIV after one instance of unprotected vaginal intercourse with a girl who is HIV+ is about 1 in 2,000. I recently had semi-protected sex with a girl that I did not know but met over the internet. I say semi-protected because, apparently, the condom broke during the act and now I'm scared to death. I've NEVER met with someone over the internet for sex before and its completely out of my character (my number of partners is 4 - all protected). She said she had been tested for ghoneria, syphilis, hepatitus and a few others (but not HIV/AIDS) the month before when she went to her gyno to get another prescription for birth control. She claims to have never met with someone over the internet for sex, and states her number of partners as 5. After I saw the statistic about 1 in 2000 getting infected after one encounter with an HIV+ girl, this made me feel a little bit better, but theres never any source for the statistic. Could you tell me a source (medical journal/study .. whatever). This would make me feel a lot better!!

[happydaze]

It does make sense that statistics are irrelevant.  You yourself state "it only takes one time to get it."  In any event, if you have questions about the CDC statistics, you'll need to contact them.  No need to be ashamed.  Sex is sex and we all have it.  You attempted to be safe and that's what counts.  The good news is that you were protected until the point the condom failed.  Plus, your partner was very likely not even HIV+. I definitely understand your fear, but the odds are very much in your favor to come out of this ok  If you want to know your status, you should test 3 months after your exposure.  Anything short of that is guessing and HIV is nothing to guess about.

[TRJ279]

(1) Why do you say "if it did break then statistics are irrelevant?" That makes no sense. The statistic I was referring to explicitly deals with "unprotected" situations. And I realize that it only takes one time to get it. But at this point I'm in a valley of shame and fear that knows no limits. Seeing some small glimer of hope - even if its in the form of a statistic - makes me feel better - or at least made me feel better until I read your post.

(2) I know it broke because when I pulled out (did not ejaculate inside her), I saw that the part of the condom covering the head of my penis was missing. If I had known it had broken, I would have stopped immediately. I feel terrible, and am not sure I can make it for three months.

(3) Do you suggest PEP? This all happened last night so there's still time

[happydaze]

Apparently the condom broke?  Either it broke it it didn't.  Condom failures are not a subtle event.  You definitely know it when a comdom breaks.  If you're guessing, then it's likely that it didn't break.  If it did break, then statistics are irrelevant.  You would have had a very low risk exposure and you are more than likely to come out of this ok.  Just get a conclusive test 3 months after the exposure.  By the way, the statistic you quoted comes from the CDC.