New Tread ? I'm not sure...

[moonbutters]

I'm new to this forum , and very glad to know there is such a thing around.  My daughter said "Mom , you need to find some people to talk to about this " . And I thought , Gosh , where ?

But , I do have a question that may have already been addressed , if so I can't find it and so would appreciate comments or threads.

Is anyone here dealing with anger issus as far as how you got this to start with ? ...I am.

First of all let me say that I am not unfimillar with Hep - C as I had a sister who died from this 6 years ago. She had recieved a blood transfusion after being hit by a car while crossing a street. So for many years my family was accustom to taking all the nessesary precautions to prevent spreading.  She died a horrible death , and I was the one who "tended her" for the last few years.

I'm getting off track , but my point is , I am not unfimilliar with Hep-C .

My anger issues are as follows.

I met a man 8 months ago , no sex for the first month or so, then yes. We dated for a few months and then decided to marry .We married on March 24th of this year. About a week later he told me he had been for a routine checkup and was found positive for B and C.. I was shocked , scared and curious. So... after looking through his medical records I discovered that in fact he had been diagnosed over 9 years ago with both.

This leads me to my point. I am Very angry and not at all sure I can live with a man who was dishonest to me about such a serious matter. As I told him , more than likely I would have said , " OK , I know what to do and I can deal with this . But the fact that I wasn't given a choice really upsets me. I could have prevevted this from happening to me if I had known.

Am I being unreasonable ? Am I wrong ? We argue alll the time and some days barely speak because this is always in the back of my mind.

Gosh, I'm gonna hush now ...LOL.

Just hoping for some comments. And yes, I am Hep -C positive now . "they" estimate 6 months.

Thanks,

moon

[Isobella]

I have read the posts and maybe missed something....Moonbutters sister died of HCV, being a good sister, Moon lovingly cared for her sister to the end.  Are you saying that prior to that "6 month period" when she was with hubby to be, Moon had tested-and shown to be negative?  And that is where the 6 month range came in-- because that is when her liver enzymes became elevated?

I think it was very very dishonest for hubby to take your choices away, but was Moon negative (by blood tests) before he came along?  Or had she not tested until after hubby's deceit was brought out.

Not to offend, or be dense, but I have a  family and a husband and always looking info on paths of transmission.

Thanks


btw-I took human growth and dev, too-not everything can be summed up by kohlberg and piaget :-)

[Kerfluffle]

I agree with everything that you said.  Especially the part where you say that medical professionals you have spoken with have characterized the risk of sexual transmission as "low".  I have heard the very same thing.  Then I see something like this from the Center of Disease Control in a  HepC report in the STD section  ---  

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http://www.cdc.gov/std/Treatment/2006/hepatitis-c.htm

The role of sexual activity in the transmission of HCV has been controversial. Case-control studies have reported an association between acquiring HCV infection and exposure to a sex contact with HCV infection or exposure to multiple sex partners. Surveillance data also indicate that 15%–20% of persons reported with acute HCV infection have a history of sexual exposure in the absence of other risk factors
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So is the transmission "low" or is it "controversial" or is it a 20% risk factor?  Remember when AIDS was the "Gay Disease" --- until it wasn't?  Something to think about perhaps?

[danceswithbirdies]

Sexual transmission of Hep C, while possible, is one of the less likely means of infection.  Like many members of this forum, I had undetected HCV for decades.  As soon as I was diagnosed my husband was tested and the result was negative.  I also notified my ex and he too tested negative.  

I agree that those who engage in high risk behavion (e.g. sex that is rough enough to cause tissue tears) have an elevated risk of transmitting the virus, but the medical professionals I have consulted have characterized the risk of sexual transmission as "low."

Off topic for a moment - may I suggest that you try to play nicely with others.  You have managed to be rude and condescending to surprising number of people in the two days you have been posting here.

[Kerfluffle]

Regarding the anger issues.  My guess is that a whole lot of people have anger issues associated with this thing but are not in touch with themselves enough to understand that they are angry and just internalize it and externalize it in inappropriate ways.  

As to why your husband may have made the decision to not tell you, let me suggest that you look up "Kohlberg's stages of moral development" at this wikipedia address  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kohlberg's_stages_of_moral_development     as it may give you some ideas.

I would strongly suggest that you see a really really good counselor for yourself and discuss your issues because they are valid emotions to have.

[Kerfluffle]

Trinity - I'm not sure what I can tell you that isn't there in black and white for everyine to see at tthe links that I provided.  I would encourage anyone to look at those links for themselves and you can clearly see that HepC is listed .

there are a lot of reasons why someone may think that HepC is not an STD.  It could very well be that they received confusing information from their doctors.  heaven knows that I have.  Or it could be that people believe what they want to believe and want others to believe that as well (group-think).  that's always a danger in online forums, you never know who or what is handing you opinion disguised as information.  Or why.   I think it best to always back up your on-line statements with actual references whicn is why I provided four of them.

And, trinity, I don't know what you are talking about regarding "type of person", yesterday etc.  I'm sorry about your issues but I will no longer engage you directly any more  because that is not productive but rather just correct any misinformation that comes from you for other people.  

[Trinity4]

Read it, don't see it - Those identified with high risk behavior should also be screened for HCV but they do not indicate it as and identified STD as they do HIV.  

Kerfluffle,
From your posts yesterday you are not the type of person I wish to engage in debate with anyway. No further comment is necessary.