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Stress on the Family- Stress on me. I can't take a separation.
Things are getting harder by the day, now my Wife, who has been so supportive is saying she can't take it anymore and wants to separate. She says that I Am overbearing and verbaly abusive. I live for my family and my kids, and i dont know what to do. I am very ittitable sometimes, I just came back from the Doctor's office and they want me to see a psychiatrist, as I am very Disraeught. What does this all mean, what shall I do? I feel that my only strenth came from the love of my family, my own strenth is so depleted.What do I do if my wife wants to separate from me?
So sorry you're in this tough situation. There have been so many times when I've had to bite my tongue instead of fully "expressing" myself with my S.O. and friends. I have to admit that not answering the phone a whole lot has helped immeasurably....
I hope your insurance will allow you to see a counselor together, because it sounds like a half dozen sessions could help quite a bit. Talking on your own to a therapist throughout the course of tx could be valuable, too. Whatever other issues might be rearing their heads, your wife does need to understand that an emotional crisis of this size is registering with you right now with hurricane force. Unless there's a revenge motive, this is not the best of times to negotiate a separation. Seriously, send her our way and many of us will be glad to talk with her.
Best of luck to you, guy. I hope this situation turns in a positive direction.
I hope your insurance will allow you to see a counselor together, because it sounds like a half dozen sessions could help quite a bit. Talking on your own to a therapist throughout the course of tx could be valuable, too. Whatever other issues might be rearing their heads, your wife does need to understand that an emotional crisis of this size is registering with you right now with hurricane force. Unless there's a revenge motive, this is not the best of times to negotiate a separation. Seriously, send her our way and many of us will be glad to talk with her.
Best of luck to you, guy. I hope this situation turns in a positive direction.
I am sorry that you are struggling and don't have a supportive wife. I know that this may not help, but I can understand. My husband has always been absent the entire times that I've treated. I.E., not liiving with me. My one and only child, a son, is severely mentally ill and lives in a psych. hospital and at times says some very cruel things to me. It's tough to live with. This is where this metal meets the road and you find out about the things that are most important. I also think that you need to be in counseling. I've had a wonderful counselor at my church for several years and she's made a lot of difference.
Take care and God Bless,
Susan
Take care and God Bless,
Susan
(((biophil)))
I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. jmjm gave you some very good advice. Many of us on treatment are also on antidepressants and many also see a councelor to deal with all of the side effects which come from the medications. Please let your wife know that you will do whatever you two decide needs doing in order to make it through this treatment together. Treatment is very difficult and stress can and does make it harder. I understand that you want to make things work and if you go to her with love and understanding, I'm sure she will, too. This can often be quite a stress on relationships, you are not alone. Many of our significant others are also under a lot of stress having to take on more than usual while we deal with our side effects and fatigue. As jmjm stated, we go back to "normal" after treatment. How much longer do you have left? Please, both of you, feel free to come and write any time. There are several spouses on the board here, too and that may offer your wife some one to identify with.
Best wishes to you and your family.
Smiles, Sue
I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. jmjm gave you some very good advice. Many of us on treatment are also on antidepressants and many also see a councelor to deal with all of the side effects which come from the medications. Please let your wife know that you will do whatever you two decide needs doing in order to make it through this treatment together. Treatment is very difficult and stress can and does make it harder. I understand that you want to make things work and if you go to her with love and understanding, I'm sure she will, too. This can often be quite a stress on relationships, you are not alone. Many of our significant others are also under a lot of stress having to take on more than usual while we deal with our side effects and fatigue. As jmjm stated, we go back to "normal" after treatment. How much longer do you have left? Please, both of you, feel free to come and write any time. There are several spouses on the board here, too and that may offer your wife some one to identify with.
Best wishes to you and your family.
Smiles, Sue
I'm treating alone but I'm sure you will get a lot of good experience/advice from those here who are treating/treated while married or in relationships.
Not to belittle your situation, but you might try sitting down with your wife and reading her a recent thread (below)entitled "Riba Rage". Some responses have a bit of humor but the seriousness is right under the skin. Hopefully, it may help you both feel you're not alone in this very trying situation.
The drugs really do change us but the important thing is to remember we will come back to normal when treatment is finished. At the same time, given your situation, you have to take action like seeing a shrink and going on AD's or sedatives, whatever makes sense. And you have to let your wife know you will do whatver it takes to make things better. You also should check with some hep c support groups in your area and maybe even bring her to a meeting.
Good luck and feel free to have your wife come on line to talk to us, if she is so inclined.
Not to belittle your situation, but you might try sitting down with your wife and reading her a recent thread (below)entitled "Riba Rage". Some responses have a bit of humor but the seriousness is right under the skin. Hopefully, it may help you both feel you're not alone in this very trying situation.
The drugs really do change us but the important thing is to remember we will come back to normal when treatment is finished. At the same time, given your situation, you have to take action like seeing a shrink and going on AD's or sedatives, whatever makes sense. And you have to let your wife know you will do whatver it takes to make things better. You also should check with some hep c support groups in your area and maybe even bring her to a meeting.
Good luck and feel free to have your wife come on line to talk to us, if she is so inclined.
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