Sudden anger

[tjrusert]

I just suddenly snapped at my husband. Is that what RIBA rage is about. It's so not me. It shocked us both. I said  I was sorry but he is sulking still. I feel really bad. He's my biggest supporter. He came in and turned off my tv and said you need to get up and move. I said " umm I was watching that". Then he turned on the radio and tried to make me dance with him. It was sweet but I got so angry because #1 I was interested in the show and #2 I hate when others make a decision about what I need to do for me. But he was trying to be nice. I feel awful. Does the med have anything to do with it or am I suddenly becoming a mean girl. I really never yell at him. I'm totally stressed now

[crigger]

Walmarts a rough place when you are on treatment.

[suezeeque]

Here's a good test:  Do your next grocery shop at Walmart.  If you can accomplish the task and make it back home without getting arrested, you darned well should be able to keep a lid on it with the people who love you.  :D

[slideman]

I agree with you so much in that NOBODY has the right to be abusive toward anybody else, for any reason. However these drugs tend to push what seems reasonable. I could have not gotten along very well without the support of my wife during tx. But I know there were times I crossed the line with the way I expressed my feelings toward her. I have always been the "happy guy" that could find fun in an empty room, but tx changed that. I tx'd 11 yrs ago, and it was a mess!! This time the sides were worse due to triple, and I was not the man she married. 5wks post tx I am returning to normal. For me the riba rage went both ways. Eventually I think my wife got tired of tx just as much as I did and she would get short with me too sometimes, I cant blame her, our lives changed so much for so long. Its just not easy on any of us. I too have read your posts and thank you for sharing. God bless you, and I hope things go your way this time!!

[Advocate1955]

Thank you suezeeque.  I agree with you, it is a parent's job to assure the emotional and physical safety of their children.  I believe that it is a parent's job to model for their children how to set and maintain appropriate boundaries for themselves.  I want my children to know how to determine for themselves what is acceptable and what is not acceptable (in terms of other peoples' behavior toward them) and have the skills to set and maintain that boundary.  I tell my children that although they can't control another person's behavior, they can control how they respond to it.
Advocate1955

[suezeeque]

Let me make myself clear:  I have not been emotionally abusive to anyone (buy myself, probably).  In 24 weeks I have 'snapped at' my husband once and my daughter once.  No yelling, name calling, etc.  Just my usual sarcastic self turned up to 11 (for This is Spinal Tap fans).

You would be quite lucky to have a spouse as supportive as Advocate1955, too.  If you follow her posts you will see that.

I don't think anyone has a stronger supporter and advocate than her husband does.  No need to do the passive/aggressive insulting here.

We all decide for ourselves what we will or will not accept in our lives.  She has clear boundaries for her children and I think that makes one fantastic mother.  Children especially don't 'get' adult crazies.  They shouldn't be expected to endure something they don't understand.

[flcyclist]

I don't think its necessary to take sides on the issue since I think most agree that there's a tendency to lose your temper during trt.  If things are said while the temper flares, you can't just brush it off and say its the meds, you have to take responsibility for those words coming out of your mouth.  

It took me a while to realize during the beginning of trt, that although I looked normal from an outward appearance, I was a raging mess that felt like total crap on the inside.  I expected my wife to recognize this and back off on certain issues, but that was unrealistic.  I had to explain when I felt these moods coming on and give certain signals that I just wasn't having a good day and needed to be left alone at certain times.  Everyone handles situations differently, but communication is important, prior to the fuse burning too low.  We've both become better at recognizing and managing this issue.