Sudden anger

[tjrusert]

I just suddenly snapped at my husband. Is that what RIBA rage is about. It's so not me. It shocked us both. I said  I was sorry but he is sulking still. I feel really bad. He's my biggest supporter. He came in and turned off my tv and said you need to get up and move. I said " umm I was watching that". Then he turned on the radio and tried to make me dance with him. It was sweet but I got so angry because #1 I was interested in the show and #2 I hate when others make a decision about what I need to do for me. But he was trying to be nice. I feel awful. Does the med have anything to do with it or am I suddenly becoming a mean girl. I really never yell at him. I'm totally stressed now

[Advocate1955]

I'm pretty sure my husband would rather have me set and maintain appropriate boundaries for myself and my children and give him a clear, consistent message about how we want to be treated, rather than allow angry snapping for little things and have it escalate to damaged relationships, feeling emotionally unsafe, or taking the kids and moving out of the house to ensure their (and my) emotional well being.
As I said before, my family is fine, my husband's third treatment in 4 years is going well, and his antidepressant is effective for him to help manage his side effects.  My children have much information about Hepatitis C, and we have been open and honest with them about chronic hepatitis, liver disease, and treatment.  They are able to live their lives normally and support their dad emotionally as he goes through this third treatment and works full time in order to have health insurance to cover the cost of treatment.  I am able to live my life normally and support my husband as he goes through this third treatment and the previous two.  Because we are his advocates and support system, we empower him to take charge of his health:  he is responsible for recognizing the signs of depression or anxiety, reaching out to get help for it as needed, and coping with his feelings in an appropriate way.  We support him in doing that.
Kmatucson, when I made my original comment above, I was speaking about my husband and my family.  You immediately concluded that I "obviously do not understand how these drugs affect" people, and implied that my children and I are not supportive or understanding of my husband.  
Advocate1955

[kmatucson]

I don't think anyone is using this as an excuse.. but, in some cases, we have no control.  Even Suzeeque admitted that.  When it happens we apologize and move on.  I have never been verbally or physically abusive, but I have snapped at my husband for little things.. But, again.. I apologize and we move on.. No sulking or grudges held.  Just support and understanding.  I knew I was lucky to have my husband, but now I feel like I'm the luckiest woman in the world.

[crigger]

I have to agree with Advocate. It is our responsibilty to do every thing we can to stay calm.  Are you taking a Antidepressant? Are you talking to spouse about these issue before they happen.  Are you talking with you Dr   I know this is very difficult this is my second treatment I know how the rage comes out of nowhere.   We can not use the medication as an excuse to be abusive to those who stand by us. I try to thank my husband every day for going to work and paying the bills and allowing me to get well

[Advocate1955]

People may lose their self-control, but they are still responsible for their behavior.
Advocate1955

[Advocate1955]

Thank you suezeeque.  I appreciate your support.
Advocate1955

[kmatucson]

And I have apologized to my husband as well...  You just proved my point, regardless of how hard you try, you are still snappy.  You don't mean to and you apologize, but in some cases you have no control.