Sudden anger

[tjrusert]

I just suddenly snapped at my husband. Is that what RIBA rage is about. It's so not me. It shocked us both. I said  I was sorry but he is sulking still. I feel really bad. He's my biggest supporter. He came in and turned off my tv and said you need to get up and move. I said " umm I was watching that". Then he turned on the radio and tried to make me dance with him. It was sweet but I got so angry because #1 I was interested in the show and #2 I hate when others make a decision about what I need to do for me. But he was trying to be nice. I feel awful. Does the med have anything to do with it or am I suddenly becoming a mean girl. I really never yell at him. I'm totally stressed now

[pooh55811]

I don't know the exact circumstances or the intricacies of your persoanl life and relationships. Everyone's life and circumstances are different. People have many different ways of relating to each other. Your husband may have meant well and in his own mind may have thought he was helping. However, turn this scenario around. How would he react if you came in and (without asking) turned off the TV program he was watching, turned on the radio, and told him he needed to get up and move.

I have seen this scenario or a similar one occur in friends' and relatives' homes and/or friends and relatives (all females) have complained to me about it. They don't like it, but they often say nothing because that is how their situations are.

However, I agree with Susan that this scenario would not sit well with many people, myself included. Personally, if I was sitting watching a TV program, I would find it very presumptious, rude, and controlling if someone came up and took it upon himself/herself to turn off my program and tell me I needed to get up and move. Whether I was on medications or not, I would not tolerate this. Sometimes feelings and reactions are justified and are not necessarily overreactions due to medications.  

[suezeeque]

Men want to 'fix' things.  His actions were not rude, IMO.  He was trying to 'fix' something.  He saw you laying about, perhaps getting depressed or what he perceived to be depressed or whatever and he was trying to 'fix' it.

His sulking and hurt feelings are probably more about not being able to 'fix' you rather than the fact that you yelled at him.

I would suggest sitting him down and explaining to him that you will be going through an extremely challenging time.  That there's really nothing he can do to make it better...  So not to even bother trying.  Tell him you understand why he did what he did but he can't make this next, hard few months any better by doing anything but being there for you.

Maybe tell him that rather than trying to figure out what you need, that he should *ask* you what you need.  It won't be forever, you will get better but there's nothing he can do.

My husband was the same way.  I had no depression issues while on treatment but he did!

[Susan_1a_CC]

I would suggest that riba rage aside, the scenario that you posted above would upset any number of people in that your husband didn't show you the courtesy of asking if you were engaged w/ the show.  While his heart was in the right place, his actions, as you wrote them, were rude.  

I can remember being snappish at times while on therapy.  It's enough to deal w/ the stress of the drugs and perhaps, one isn't as ready to deal w/ the unnecessary stresses that pop up and so, one appears to be more inclined to "rage."

Good luck and hopefully your husband is no longer sulking.  If he is than he was motivated by his own needs and not yours - imo.

[flcyclist]

As OH said, its mostly due to the interferon.  For me, the worst was the 2-4th month as my body was adjusting to the meds and getting used to this mental challenge.  I also notice the few days after the interferon shot were the worst and things got better as the week progressed.  

Many days I just wanted to curl up in a ball and be left alone.  Minor distractions were annoying and the fuse was very short on some days.  The level of anger went beyond the norm and we easily recognized by family.  But Its gotten much better now.  Some do consider ADs if you have trouble managing, so discuss with the doc if it gets to this point.   It will be over soon.

[JasmineT]

Yes.  With me it's become so bad that whenever have any small negative thought I have this moment of kind of a chemical surge of rage through my chest and brain.  I don't outburst necessarily bit the surge is there and I am afraid it has pushed it's way out more than I could see and damaged relations.  Hope you can keep it in check, make sure you talk to your doc when you go in next.

[tjrusert]

That's good to hear. I just surprised myself. I will have to get used to it and try to control my words if I can't control my anger.