after the treatment will my wife ever be herself again

[depressedhusband]

My wife has her last treatment he 20th of feb and wee would have been married a year feb 22. She has been mad all week and today became violent and told me she hated me and she wanted a divorce. so I dont know what to think.I have tried very hard to be supportive but the last month she has been getting meaner and  very hurtful. All she wants is her dogs and we went from one to four since may. She has kicked me out of our bedroom and treats me like a dog..know they sleep with her so worse. I was marrried to an abusive woman for 11 years and I said never again. I dont want to give up on my wife I love her but she has me so stressed out that  I am onmeds for depression  and it is just getting worse,she informed me that this is her home I dont have one.

[Trinity4]

Oh yes, I can sure relate.  That same approach has kept many a person from having my pen surgically removed from their eyeball!

[granitekonig]

Look, it's really simple: These meds will make you act the way you really want to act without putting too much thought on avoidance. If she's a ***** at the core, then she'll be a ***** on the meds. You said she acted similar since before the treatment.

Maybe you should consider whether you should be with her. Do you deserve better? Or do you like it when she treats you like dog ****? I dont' think this is a med issue at all. Don't confuse the type of person she is with her recent excuse of medication.

There is a time to call it quits in a relationship. If she's the same to you after treatment and you don't leave her then you are both stupid and a coward.

[R Glass]

My first case of Riba Rage.
My Project Manager was only trying to do me a favor when he called to tell me he was going to send a couple of laborers to my jobsite to clean. I took it as if he was insinuating my site was a mess. I let him have it with both Barrels.
The hard part was having to call him back after I calmed down. After that, I learned to keep my mouth shut until I confirmed if it was the Riba Rage or a legitimate reason to have the Red @ss. Oh the passed up opportunities.

[GreatBird]

>>You can't sit around all day mad at the world, feeling sorry for yourself and taking your aggression out on your loved ones.<<

Wow. You just described my mother to a 'T'. (And, no, she wasn't on tx.)

[Trinity4]

Ricky,
You hit the nail on the head man.  You HAVE to use restraint while txing.  Lots of times my first reaction is to lash out but I know what is causing it and I control it.  Things just p-i-s-s me off more than they used to.  I'm not happy all the time.  I have days of darkness and melancholy.  I don't feel good anymore.  I don't have any energy and I'm not the social creature or the same person I was before tx and why would I expect to be?  You can't sit around all day mad at the world, feeling sorry for yourself and taking your aggression out on your loved ones.  If you have to withdraw a bit than do so.  If you need an AD to cope, get on one.  However, I disagree with MB, not everyone should be on them b/4 starting tx.   Tx is a huge inconvenience in the life process, suck it up and move on.  It isn't easy but emotions are manageable for most because everybody really knows why they are feeling hostile, sx aren't a new concept.  We know going into this it's likely to happen.  It's just a matter of controlling it.  Works for me so far!   I'm in better tune with what's going on emotionally than I was b/4 tx.  I've learned to be more patient at work and at home. That is the truth.
Trin  

[R Glass]

If you go back and read his post you will find she was like this before tx. Tx just made it worse. It seems to me, with her personality, she is not trying to use any restraint for the Riba rage. If restraint is not used we all could have been like Linda Blair in the exorcist. Tx does change some people’s out look on life but I doubt it is going to happen. If it were me, I would stick it out until she recovers from tx. If things do not change, I would have fulfilled my obligations as her husband, count my losses, and get the hell out of there. Life is too short to be miserable On the other hand, I have been around long enough to know, there is 2 sides to every story.