Hi everyone
I've been living for quite some time what I believe to be an even more dangerous version of the coolidge effect.
let me explain: I am a 37-year-old European man, engaged to a girl with whom I will soon marry.
In recent years, for work, I lived in a country of South America where women, literally, jumped on me. I know it sounds like a horrible, masculine speech, but it's the truth of what happened to me. The feeling, for a good-looking and healthy European, was to be able to have any woman with incredible ease (a porn in real life).
So told it seems like a dream, but now, in my relationship, I'm having libido problems I've never had.
down there The way to find girls was easy, I often knew them on facebook, we sent each other photos, there was the whole phase of virtual excitement (which involved a lot of mental level) and then went to the sexual phase. Normally, however, simple things, masturbation and only sometimes a little oral sex (I am hypochondriac and I do not trust to have full sex with little-known women, not even with a condom).
This year, with my girlfriend here in Europe, I was still in that country of South America for work, and I'm ashamed to say it happened again. Photos, videos, all the absorbing mental part of virtual sex, and then masturbation and other things. Now back here I lost the libido for my beautiful girl. I struggle to make love with her and it's causing me a lot of anxiety.
I know I have no erection problems because I still keep phone numbers of some of those girls (i guess i have to stop cause that's part of the problem) and if I talk to them about hot topics I immediately feel that life returns down there. For the rest nothing, no erections, no libido, nothing, absolutely.
I ask anyone who has had this serious problem how to deal with it, what do you advise me to do? Are there any supplements or substances that can help me or is it all in my head?
Please i'm desesperate! Thanks