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How to survive a midlife crisis
I know my boyfriend of 16 years is going through a midlife crisis. He just turned 50. How long will this last and how can I survive this. He has all the symptoms that this is what's going on. He tells me he will never leave me and we will grow old together. It has been so hard on me the way he has been acting towards me lately. Leaving home for days and coming home acting cold , distant, and depressed. He does'nt always act that way though. I never know what to expect from one day to the next. I tell him I love him all the time. Sometimes I feel like I'm trying too hard to make him happy and putting him first in our relationship. He used to put me first. I need some input on this and some answers about how I can help him get through this. I don't want him to leave me and I don't want myself to give up on him.
He says its not another woman. He tells me not to worry he just needs some time away from me to do some thinking. He says its not me, its him. I still think he is blaming me for the way his life has been for the last 10 years. Its hard for me to let go of him because I still love him. He has left his clothes here and has not tried to take them with him. I 'm pretty sure he's cheating on me and is lying about it. He also keeps telling me everything will be allright. I'm hoping this will all pass and he will grow tired of this and start staying home. I know this is the first time he has ever acted like this.
Sorry, but I wouldn't put up with someone leaving home for days and then coming home cold, distant and depressed. It would be counseling or it's over. My husband hit 50 and didn't even have a midlife crisis -- it is not inevitable. Something is going on with this guy that you really can't just write off.
I have mentioned counseling. He won't go. He is always running away from me and seems very restless.
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