I dont know whats going on with me? Im just so scared i feel no attraction to anyone like i did before and thats frightening im scared that I'll never find another girl attractive or anybody for that matter? I hate my mind. I'd love for it to go back the way it is was before.
mate. Let this be the only thing you need to read.
I'm gay. And I didn't ever NOT know I was gay. At 15 I knew I liked men. Also if you think about it. Wats happening to you is like -the reason you are thinking about it constantly is because you don't want to be gay. Then you convince yourself these intrusive thoughts mean you are gay. But really it's your mind telling you to think about it more. I scare you more. Is like reverse psychology on yourself
Okay I simply can not do this anymore everything i had to look forward to is gone. I dont feel anything anymore and I foget how it feels to be truly attracted to someone because now all i get is anxiety around everyone and every time i think i see an attractive girl ill say wow shes attractive and then think im forcing it. I just cant believe everything was so good a month ago where i just got into college but of course i wondered if what i was going for was really for me? and then asked myself who am i? Could I be gay? wtf is wrong with me i want to go back to before when i knew for sure who i was and i really need someone's help and i need a reply soon. I dont think this is ocd anymore because my anxiety is gone.
My mind is telling me that now im just repressing everything? I forget how feeling attracted to someone feels now? is this normal im freaking out!
OCD should be labeled OMG for all of those Oh My God moments we have and also for Obsessive Mind Game because that is what we are doing to ourselves...we are playng one big mind game on ourselves.
This is the pattern for a thought process like you are going through:
Taken from the OCD Workbook: Your Guide to Breaking Free of OCD that I always recommend but nobody seems to ever buy.
Intrusive thought --> Catastrophic appraisal of the thought --> Increased anxiety and worry --> Overcontrol strategies which include Vigilence (Could I really do it? and Covert rituals (testing) --> temporary anxiety reduction --> The cycle starts over again.
"Primarily obsessional OCD begins with an intrusive, distressing thought that the person appraises in a particularly negative way. In the person's mind, the thought is experienced as having the same reality or importance as an action. As a result, the person attempts to avoid or suppress the thought. This leads to various overcontrol strategies to reduce anxiety, including mental rituals. While these strategies may reduce discomfort, the effect is only temporary, and then the cycle begins again." .
Do you see how you have gone into the overcontrol strategy realm? You are not gay my friend. If you were, you wouldn't find being with anothe rman repulsive. If you were gay, you would know it and accept it. It is the "catastrophic appraisal of the thought" that is leading to the anxiety you are feeling. You need to get some professional help to break this cycle.
holy **** i cant do this anymore. its getting to the point where i just want to lock my door and sleep because thats the only time im thinking this and i have to work tonight and tomorrow i cant.