stressful weekend.

[jamlws]

As you all know what we found out with my MIL, I talked to her last night and told her she needs to get out more and not lay around like she is always doing cause that will just make the pain worse. I also told her she needs to find another PCP and maybe they will send her to a pain speicalist to help her with the pain. Of course I don't know if she will listen or not but she didn't go to any of the grandkids games today so I guess that tells me alot. I will keep trying to help her but you can't help those who dont' want it.
I got up yesterday hurting. I went to get something to drink so I could take my meds and I stepped in alot of water and looked down and there was water everywhere. I saw that our fridge broke over night. So we had to hurry up and get a new one but by time we was able too we lost 2 trash bags of food. So we have no food in the house now. We have insurance on everything in the house so I will have to pay $100 for them to come out and look and see if it can be fixed if not they will replace it. I forgot all about having the insurance on them or I would of called and spent my money on getting someone out here instead of renting one. My mind wasn't in the right place I guess and when stuff like that happens I freak. I got up today with my son Austin in the bathroom puking. I have no clue what is going on with him but he has been puking and pooping all day. He would puke and then say I'm fine and I am going to play my game today. This is only the 2nd game he has been able to play since his surgery. Well we got to the ball field and he got out and said mom I don't feel good, then he started puking everywhere. I told him to get in the truck we was taking him home and I would go tell his coach he won't be there today, His coach said he has to be there tomorrow so make sure he rests. Austin started crying cause he wanted to play so bad. He came home and went to sleep on the sofa and then got up to eat and puked again. I don't think he will be going to school tomorrow which I hate cause they are starting his camp at school. I will call his dr in the moring. I am sure this has nothing to do with his surgery but I just want to make sure. He has been through alot and needs a break. I just hope tomorrow goes alot better then today did.
Thanks for listening
Jamie

[Tuckamore]

Hi Jamie,

I am sorry you have such a stressful weekend. I hope your week will be better.

Kids can get so sick so quickly and so well just as quick. There immune system is new and they seem to get every "bug" that goes around. Lucky most of those viruses come and go with in 24 hours. I hope that your son is now feeling much better. He has been through so much. His immune system may just be a bit lower for awhile. But kids usually recover quickly.

As far as your MIL goes I find that you can get more flies with honey than you can vinegar. I do know how very frustrating it can be however try to put yourself in your MIL shoes. She is older than you and has at least as much pain so imagine how she must feel, struggling with pain and depression. If you are able to befriend her and be understanding and supportive you may see a change in her. At least you can hope for that.

Again I hope that you week will be better. Keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. My best to you and your son.

Take Care,
~Tuck

[mellie4]

It's really frustrating trying to help someone that isn't really open to it.  My mother suffered from terrible debilitating arthritis.  She died four years ago at 82.  But sometimes she would get me sooo frustrated.  Whatever I'd suggest, her response would be, "It's arthritis.  There's no cure for arthritis."

I bought her some glucosamine chondrotin and brought her to the orthopedic doctor where shed get cortisone injections in her neck, elbow and hands.  When the ortho suggested pain relievers like Vicodin, she wouldn't want to take it because she didn't want to become an addict.  Same thing when they wanted her to take some steroids; nope on that, too; she didn't want to get "roid rage."

Eventually I was able to convince her it's best to try to stay ahead of the pain.  I got her on a schedule of the Vicodin, ibuprofen, an OTC arthritis cream, and a heating pad (heat helped more with the pain than ice (same with me, too.)

I felt bad that her last years were spent in so much pain.  I tried to explain to her that even if there was no cure, that putting together little pieces of things to help with the pain could bring some serious pain relief.  You know, if the Vicodin helped 20 percent, and the heating pad helped 5 percent, etc.

I hope your MIL will accept your help.  Its a shame that she's not open to it.  It could make a big difference in her quality of life.