should I let my bf parents go the hospital when I have my baby.

[Angelina19900]

I over heard my boy friends Dad talking about why does my bf take care of my son that isn't hes. It has upset me . When I git with my bf he understood I'm a package. It took every ounce in me not to act ratchet. And talk shhh to him.now I dont want him around my son or he's first grand daughter! If he feels like that. I take it serious when you talk about my son! It shouldn't of came out he's mouth. Most of all he had no balls to tell me to my face. I had my boyfriend tell he's Dad something but I'm upset. I just wanna cuss him out! I hate putting my biz out but I'm still angry. And wanna confront him! Why was he talking about my son in the first place

[turkey_club_0214]

Your welcome.  My opinion comes from own experience ... my dad (step dad) met my mom when he was 26 and she already had 4 kids. His words were and till are ... love ur parter as much as u love her/his kids. Both of my sisters remarried each having 3 kids. It can be done! ;) good luck

[Ellena88]

Is better that you talk to the granpa: my oldest is now 8 almost 9, my husband is rising him since he was 1 year old, at 2 we moved close to his parents...my son when he started to talk better around 2 1/2 -3 years started calling them granpas: once i was walking behind them when my son called them that their answer to my baby was: don't call me granpa i am not your grandfather!!! I mean there are ways and ways of saying things, same thing came out of my MIL mouth. I got me really depress during a year or so. Who will talk like that to a baby??? So they kept doing the same until one day my son who was i think 4 called her by her name and she turned and said: you don't call me grandma anymore and my son looked at her and said well i thought that you said to me you didn't want me to call you grand ma so thats why i call you by your name...and so she said no call me grandma my son calls her granma and her name, same with FIL granpa and his name. But i wished i did something back then. You should do it and stand for your son. He looses (Fil) not your baby...your baby is amazing and if he doesn't want to get to have an extra grand kid then is his problem. Good luck and don't forget your baby only has you to protect him!!!

[Angelina19900]

7 months going on 8 . Omg thanks for ypur helpful advice!  ^_^

[turkey_club_0214]

And in the mean time have him favorite this new baby? No. How far along are u? Maybe u can talk to him now and see what he says. Maybe things will be better once the baby is here.

[Angelina19900]

I can be a ***** patty lmfao ^.^ and I meant in General not invite them to the hospital! I dont on plan having my bf parents while I have my baby. Weird.:o but it makes me mad how he's Dad talked about my son. Yet I've helped he's parents out! I'm not with playing favorites! Nor talking behind ppls back.espically about a child.

[TexasMom1108]

You can't change his mind on it just give it time. Don't play stupid games like forbidding contact. That will cause more problems.