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Abortion
I am 10 weeks pregnant and am considering a vacuum aspiration abortion. Although my boyfriend feels he is ready for kids, he can be emotionally abusive at times. I am in a new place where I have no family/friends which makes it especially hard. Has anyone ever had this procedure and if so, any advice??
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Everyone has their opnions because of moral reason, just like chooseing what religion, abortion is up to each individual, and they shouldn't feel ashamed for thinking about it or doing it. Just think long and hard because it does have a huge emotional impact on u for the rest of your life, same with adoption and keeping the fetus, your a strong woman and sounds like you just need time to think things through, talk to your boyfriend about his emotional abuse, and so forth tell him your scared, at everything its your choice that u have the right to do, just remember u can never take it back, I am personally pro choice, as long as its not used as a form of birth control, I know someone who has had 8 because she dosent like the feeling of north contol or whatever, that's when I have a problem with it, but hon its up to you and only you
My advice...tell the bf you need to take it slow if he's not being supportive. Be independent. Get your own place, go to the local county building and ask for help. They can provide you all sorts of resources. If you really don't want to keep it...no one ever considers adoption. Its quite sad. I know its inconvenient to go through all that and give it up. I'm sure its inconvenient for the baby if you decide abortion. Sounds like your just scared and that's ok. Everyone gets scared. You can do it, its a blessing. Don't feel guilty about feeling apprehensive.
sounds like you are gong through the motions sweetie i had an abortion back on Feb 15, 2008 it is the worse feeling every i still have dreams about my baby but since then i have had two kids and i regret it everyday, now i tend to hold on to my kids tighter...my advice is to try to work thingds out, find out some resourse places i that city and if he cant do rite move out on your own,,,,,,
I had one done, and what they did was took me in a small room and laid me on a table made me open my legs like I was getting a pap. Then they put me to sleep, you don't have to get put out but I recommend it. So you do t feel anything. Then the next thing I knew I was getting woken up in a room with a couple other girls, as soon as I opened my eyes I started crying. They made me take this pill then go to the bathroom to change my pad I wasn't even bleeding at the time. But they played this tape telling me how to take care of myself and then let me go home after an hour in recovery. Don't listen to the other people judging if you are set on getting an abortion because egoism are not ready then that is what you need to do. Just make sure its what you absolutely want because it does put a lot of stress on you after, the feeling of regret and what not.
I have had the procedure. And although I don't regret my decision I would never ever do it again. It will emotionally damage you for a while just a fair warning but like you I wasn't read. My boyfriend my verbally abusive and I couldn't go through with a child in the midst of that. But the basic procedure.is different for everyone I personally cant be sedated for drug reasons so I did the produce wide awake and then passed put for a couple minutes. But it last for about 5 mins and hurts for a couple days like really bad period cramps. But def call someone or find a therapist that you can run your ideas around with. Good luck and god bless ya.
I was with someone once that I did not was kids with and I went on birth control, the only time ever. I am preg with my second, condom failed, not ready, didn't want to do this right now, but my baby shouldn't have to suffer, and won't. I also know many who did, my best friend is one, I still love her, but they all regret it. Hers went bad, and had am infection, and had to get a historectomy at 23, and CAN'T have kids now.Please do not murder this baby. There are so many that can't have children that would love that child if you can't.
I highly suggest considering adoption as well. I won't make any comments either for or against abortion, but I do recommend that you go speak with someone who you can trust before making your decision. A family member you can call, a pastor/preacher, and if all else fails make an appointment with Planned Parenthood. They will discuss abortion and adoption options with you.
I know a LOT of moms who weren't ready when they got pregnant, who ended up single, who considered abortion...and there are a lot who went on to have the baby and realize it was the best thing that ever happened to them.
Only you know what you can handle, though, and the choice is completely yours.
Best of luck in your decision
I know a LOT of moms who weren't ready when they got pregnant, who ended up single, who considered abortion...and there are a lot who went on to have the baby and realize it was the best thing that ever happened to them.
Only you know what you can handle, though, and the choice is completely yours.
Best of luck in your decision
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