I cant take it anymore!!

[addy42011]

I wrote a post abut this before cuz ive been so frustrated with my hubbys family! They are constantly asking him for money they live in mexico and he recently sent them $1500 for his brothers surgery which I had no choice but to understand the situation, now they want $500 for something else! Im 19 weeks pregnant and yes we have money saved but  eventually I wont be able to work anymore and will have to rely on my hubbys income for everything! He says everything will be fine blah blah, but he thinks bringing a baby into the world is like not a big deal...im so mad that his family thinks just because we live in america means we are rich! And I just think to myself I will have to deal with this for as long as im with him...and I cant handle it!

[amanada]

That's crap! They should understand how important it is for you guys to get a good savings in now. I just hope they don't get the idea that they can keep asking you guys for money since you were able to help them out before. well good luck with your situation

[425tips]

He should tell them he can't send that much. You guys should talk about a limits. I mean I know in Mexico is hard life but if he sends that amount there going to think that they asking  for does amounts is ok anytime . I know it's his family and he worries but is not for them to be so needy on him when they should now you guys have bills and needs too .

[AnnieBrooke]

Bank your income separately from his, while you still have an income, so he won't be able to zero out your money *and* his.  At least you will have some money left even if he sends money to his family in Mexico.  Not that he should be sending all your extra to them, and a way to get him to understand this is to be very explicit with him about the costs of things.  Write it all out.  Go over the layette list and show him how much various things cost, show him the monthly costs too.  

[addy42011]

Thats what I try to explain to him, but he doesnt understand! He just keeps saying everything will be okay and its hard for me to believe, im pregnant like of course im gonna worry about my childs future...I just feel hes putting his brothers needs before mine and his child and it hurts me.

[margueritebrayden]

I mean it's nice he is doing that but it takes a lot of money to raise a baby.. When you can't work anymore you'll need the saved up money.. What if baby needs extra things.. Or you do..