confused??!!

[a3m]

Second pregnancy, but hubby first Baby, second guessing Baby shower, thinking just diaper shower, what's your opinion

[RockRose]

I agree with Annie,  and think you are on the complete right track,  a3m,  with having the baby's godmother give the shower,  and you're thinking small.  What you probably want,  here,  are pictures of a celebration to go in your baby's book,  that show you celebrated the second baby as much as the first.  Merchandise isn't important - friends and family  gathering to celebrate this welcome new little one is what is important.  

[AnnieBrooke]

You know, as long as you are avoiding the things Emily Post used to really hate, which were the woman herself or close family throwing the shower (apparently family was supposed to pony up without soliciting gift help), or a second shower that expects as costly of loot as a first shower, I don't think even the sniffiest of modern grandmas are going to give you any static.  

[a3m]

Yeah my Baby God mama is giving the shower, but as for furniture we've already started with that.. Everything will fall in place in no time, thanks for the suggestions

[spoiledpreggo_lol]

Oooooh my goodness! This is the same exact question I've been asking! I don't wanna be tacky or greedy so I've been hesitant about a shower but everybody keeps telling me that if I don't then hubby's side of the family is missing out ((first grandbaby)) and I shouldn't feel guilty about it because EVERYBODY in our family has had a shower for all of their kids... I'm still putting thought into it but leaning toward a fun celebration of life lol

[AnnieBrooke]

If you still have all the necessary baby stuff, it's a classy thing to only do a diaper shower.  Second-child showers used to be against the rules, since people kept everything or passed them around.  Now they're more common, but there is always some sniffy old grandma who remembers the old days and thinks it's overkill.  A diaper shower is a nice compromise -- you get to see your friends and don't overload their tolerance for being asked for gifts.

[tiphoni97]

Do, what makes you happy. Truth is, you should not be throwing your own shower, anyway. So allow whom ever is throwing the shower to put all of that together. Just show up glowing, and be thankful for everything you receive! However, if its you putting on the festivities, then do what you really want!