Pregnancy or Abortion?

[brownhair30]

I am 8 weeks pregnant, and I really do not want to have  this baby. But I am not 100% sure if I want to have an abortion. I do not want to put up for an adoption.  I already have 2 small children by 2 different dads. I just feel so bad that I made this mistake once again. I will be a single mother for the 3rd time.  Any advice. Should I have this baby or not?

[Motherhoodo12]

Thats a choice only u can make, nobody else can make it for you.. And no one should judge your decision..

[mrssandefur]

I was raped and had seriously considered abortion with my second son, I was going through a divorce from an awful marriage and dealing with child custody case of my oldest (which I lost because of this pregnancy) well I decided against abortion and.started leaning on adoption. I had some family friends who.couldn't have.kids so I considered them. Well I met my current husband, my son would only move for him, I mean of course I felt him.move but if I or anyone else would talk he'd stop moving, with.my husband (when we were just friends and.dating) he could lay on my belly and sing and talk to our son and he'd kick away. From that moment I knew keeping him was the only option.
I had him and when they showed him to me all I could do was cry at the thought I considered ridding myself of such a precious child because of something that wasn't his fault (I mean it wasn't mine either but still). Now he is the only one I have full custody of, and so many people ask me if I'd go back and choose something different if it meant I could get my older son full time, as much as I'm in love with my older son and would love to have him full time as well he has another part of a family who.loves him just as much and needs to have their time with him, I don't blame my second son for anything it wasn't his fault. He is the highlight of my day, this little boy can make me po'd and crack up in same minute.

[HeatherLynB]

2 of my closests girlfriends have had abortions...they are NOT emotionally damaged from doing it. Everyone is different, IMO its your body and you dont have to do anything you dont want to do. People can tell you to give it up for adoption...ask them if they have ever given their child up for adoption! its simply your choice. God forgives.

[Gabsmommy]

Hey hun, I'm in the same boat, I have a six year old and I'm 8 weeks pg. just found out last night, by suppossed fiance us also two other womens boyfriend...go figure. I thought about abortion and I'm can't do it. I'm may be hard explaining the situation to family, but we have both done it before. Also no matter how many kids you have our fathers etc. you will find someone that isnt phased by that, it was your life and you lived it and did what you thought was best. If people want to harp on you about your decisions then they have even bigger problems then you do. Genuine people and men will be understanding. Men can be jerks and life isn't made of fairy dust. Whatever decision you make, make sure that
it is your OWN, cause no one else has to live with it but you.

[jenniekae81]

Like most the other ladies,minus the really negative one, have  said it is just something you need to decide for yourself and your kids. I am a single mom also with an 11 year old and 14 month old...i am going through a nasty divorceand custody battle for my 1yr old from a verbally/emotionally abusive ex and I am almost 33weeks pregnant. It is not my exes...it happened the very first time I did anything with anyone after I left him...and I later found out that the sperm donor is married! So I am completely on my own and understand how you could contemplate what you are. I am all for the right to choose but me personally I could never have an abortion or give my baby up for adoption. I have people judging me...asking me who the father is....yada yada yada but you know what hun, in the end, it is YOUR life! Not theirs....NO ONE has any right to judge you in whatever decision you make.

[parkersmommy]

I think that you should do whatever you want. I understand feeling overwhelmed I'm pregnant with my second by two different dads but my husband has raised my son his whole life and I've never had to do it alone and I don't want to have anymore either I've already signed the paperwork to get my tubes tied. I don't think I could carry a baby 40 weeks and then give it away either so I understand where you are coming from with that. But I myself could never have an abortion. Isn't there some way you could have, love, and care for this baby, and take appropriate precautions in the future? If not you should do what's best for you and your children regardless of what anyone else says or thinks. Good luck!