Young Pregnancy

[4Nheaven1here]

I'm not judging nor am I trying to be rude but I have a question for all you young moms. Now I've already asked a few of you why so early and some responded that it was an accident. Understandable accidents happen and at least your being responsible and taking care of your self and baby, bravo to you ladies!  Im wondering about the others who are purposely getting pregnant at such young ages like 21 and under? Why so early ladies? What's the rush? Btw I'm currently writing a book about this. No names will be used only opinions. I've exhausted my own topic of " Being pregnant with Cancer". Thanx to all that do share .

[Mommy24721]

I'm 19 years old and when I was 17 I had wanted a baby...I have been financially stable for a long time now...I had tried to get pregnant with my boyfriend at the time thinking we would b together forever well I had a miscarriage so I waited a year before trying again so I succeeded twice that year only to find out I have a genetic disorder called "MTHFR gene heterozygous" I was so devastated that I shut out everyone ending my relationship so I messed around with guys to feel "like a woman again" due to not being able to get through a pregnancy without medication well when I finally wanted to settle down again I was with the wrong guy he was a player so it ended badly for me and my best friend at the time helped me out he got my things from the guys house and brought me home which started our relationship it had been about six months since the bad news so I had been wanting to b in a relationship again so my best friend and I got into a relationship he was my knight in shining armor, my hero...well we moved in together and six months later I ended up pregnant we had never planned for this but we were never using protection due to the fact I am financially stable so when I was waiting for my period I had the feeling I was pregnant on mothers day I took a test and it was positive I was so excited and scared at the same time I made an appointment and went in right away and every week for my first trimester I was in getting a shot in the butt and taking low dose asprin along with extra prenatal vitamins when I was officially out of the first trimester we told our families shortly after he started drifting away from me and he refused to buy things for the baby and kept being rude to me...I was miserable...I quit my job due to stress and he left me not long after that he told me he is signing his rights off and now I'm working on my GED and getting my license while I'm waiting for my son to be born...I'm happy that I have a baby on the way I'm just sad that my kiddo doesnt get to have a daddy :/ but I'm happy to say everything is going well so far the baby is doing great and so am I...I don't regret getting pregnant I was born to be a mother...what I regret is who I chose to b the father

[teregarcalva]

My first pregnancy was unplanned. I was 15 and my boyfriend (now husband) and I were using condoms and one ripped. I took plan b and assumed everything would be ok and it seemed like it was until i stopped getting my "period" (it was actually spotting) around the time I was 18 weeks pregnant. I had him when I was 16 and I believe I was a child rasing a child but I don't regret it because he made me work harder and pushed me to do good in school. I am now 20 and I am now married to the father of my son. He is a Marine and is currently deployed. Before he left I got my IUD taken out and we decided we would try to concive before he left and if it didn't happen then I was gonna stay off birth control since there was no way I could get pregnant with him being deployed. It didn't look like it was going to happen since all the test came out negative, but I took a test about 2 weeks after he left and it was positive! I get why you think that it's a young age to get pregnant at because normally people my age are going out and enjoying being young but i find no joy in any of that my son means the world to me. I find more joy in being with my husband and son, then going out and partying. We decided on another baby because our son is 4 and they're already so apart in age, not only that but we truly enjoy being parents. Age doesn't defy the type of parent a person can be. Everyone tells me that I'm very mature for my age and are surprised when I tell them I'm 20. I still go to school and I plan to go back to work after this baby. The way I see it having my son made me work harder to be successful and until this day he still gives me the motivation. I may be having my children at a younger age but that just means I get to love them a little bit longer.

[girlinseptember]

My fiance and I had planned our pregnancy. We have been together since I was 16 and I am now 21, he is 24. I have graduated secondary school and am in the middle of a teaching degree at university. Everyone is different on what they view as an appropriate age to have children, but I think if you don't agree with someone else's choices don't comment because they are not your choices. My fiance and I have been talking bout children for over a year and we both worked more and have saved for our child. Like said previously aswell some people are in their 30s and not mature or capable of having a child, yet nobody comments that they have made the wrong choices or about mothers who are in their late forties and risks of pregnancy are higher. At our age we are at our prime to carry a child.

[amberkn31]

I'm 18 and 38weeks and 5 days pregnant. My pregnancy definitely wasn't planned but it wasn't prevented either. I had just gotten kicked out of my house on my 18th birthday by my psycho mother who has wanted be gone from her life since I was 12 so I moved in with my boyfriend and his parents. I had implanon but it made me severely sick and anemic so I got it out in November a few weeks after my birthday. I finished high school and graduated May 2013. Me and my boyfriend have been together 3 years now and we live together while he's trying to get a coal mining job. I already have a factory job lined up for me after my pregnancy is over but I can't go to college till I can figure out how to pay for it but I'm hoping to attend college fall of 2014. Yeah I got pregnant because we weren't using condoms(I'm allergic to the lubes on them they cause me swell up huge down there and get burning sensations that hurt so bad I can't move) and I wasn't on BC. We also weren't using the pullout method everytime. It was unexpected but we both are trying our hardest to give our daughter what is best for her. We both grew up and took responsiblity for making her and plan to raise her. Even though it wasn't planned we have grown closer and actually better towards each other since before I was pregnant I had plans to leave him. Its made us both closer and stronger as people and I'm proud to have him around and glad he's the dad. His family is a great support system even though they are sometimes overbearing but atleast I know my daughter will have a family full of people who love and want her and that's all that matters

[stinaann93]

I'm nineteen almost twenty. Got married at 18. My husband has three children from his previous marriage. We have custody of two, which I mainly take care of due to me working part time and him working full time. We decided we wanted a child a year ago. But I stopped taking my birth control 2 1/2 months ago and I'm now 2 months pregnant. Since his first marriage failed miserably he wanted to have a child with someone who he is happy with, which is me :) its not that he doesn't love his children please don't take it wrong, we just want a mother father bond which is hard if I do not go through pregnancy too

[babywhalen2]

I got pregnant with my son at 22...I felt like that was young for me. My hisband and I had married at 21, and had been married for nine months when we got pregnant. He was not planned, bc failed. Wed always wanted kids, just not for a couple years. Both of us attended college before we got pregnant, and had lived on our own seperately before we got married. Moved in together when we got married. We both had good jobs, although i was laid off shortly after I got pregnant. I really felt I was young, and not ready, but we were financially stable and in our own house and had both been used to supporting ourselves from the time we were teens so we accepted our son as the blessing he is. Now we have a beautiful 19mo son, and im 32wks with a girl. Again not planned lol. Bc hates me lol. Hoping we can buy the house we are renting this spring. Its been tough, esp wirh paying for all medical out of pocket but i wouldnt have it any other way. I would like to go back to work in a year or so. For now were making the necessary sacrifices because we feel its important for me to be a sahm. Although its not what i always thought life would look like, i love it. And ill do whatever it takes to give my kids the best.