Young Pregnancy

[4Nheaven1here]

I'm not judging nor am I trying to be rude but I have a question for all you young moms. Now I've already asked a few of you why so early and some responded that it was an accident. Understandable accidents happen and at least your being responsible and taking care of your self and baby, bravo to you ladies!  Im wondering about the others who are purposely getting pregnant at such young ages like 21 and under? Why so early ladies? What's the rush? Btw I'm currently writing a book about this. No names will be used only opinions. I've exhausted my own topic of " Being pregnant with Cancer". Thanx to all that do share .

[Emi10172013]

From the time I was little I knew I wanted to get married young and have children I wanted to be a mommy so bad. My husband and I met when I was 13 we got married when I was 18. I was married so I knew if I got pregnant my baby would be taken care of we planned our son I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant and it was 6 months after we got married. I ended up having him when I was 20. Now this pregnancy was not planned I got pregnant just short of 5 months after having my son, but we love this baby boy just as much as the first. I am 21 now and will be having my second baby boy in 30 days via csection and I don't think I'm too young to have children at all my children are what I live for and I couldn't be happier.

[Desi1121]

I dont think 21 is young?
Im 18 and 21w. Me and my husband just wanted to start our family. He is in the Marine Corps, so we are financially stable. Irs a natter of opinion if others think someone is too young. I think it depends on maturity level. You can be 35 and still be too immature to be having kids( my dad for example is that type). Its all matter of someones opinion. Dont get me wrong i believe 15 year old girls shouldnt be going out to purposely get pregnant, i believe thats ignorant. Babies shouldnt be having babies. But i respect teen mothers because they step up and grow up for their child.

[arnitia]

Agree ^ im 19 years old and very mature!  Didn't get pregnant on purpose though.  

[Desi1121]

Besides its not like teen pregnancy just started.
Back in the old days(my grandparents time) it was normal for.14,15,16, year old girls to be getting married and having LOTS if children. My grandmother was a child of 16 and the youngest, her mother had her first child when she was only 13. My mother had gotten married at 13, had me at 19, and no one blinked an eye. People blow things out of porportion now days.

[arnitia]

Lol yeah also it wasn't really frowned upon to get pregnant at a young age back in the olden days.

[JaidennsMommi]

Well i had my first when i was 18, he was planned...at the time me and his father were living together and had our own place and were doing good...i cant exactly tell you why i wanted a baby but i just had a feeling and the need to be a mom, i'd raised my younger siblings and never realy had a childhood from the time i was 8 or 9...it was just natural to me and we felt it was the next step for us....his father isnt in the picture anymore but i know having my son was the best thing that ever happened to me, i was born to be a mother....and this pregnancy, was an accident...i didnt want another child for a few years and not with the person i was with, it was a horrible relationship and i was finding a way out when i turned up prego, birthcontrol failed...but now ima have my two lil men and turn 21 in dec. I admit i did not want two children at this age plus be a single mother but god knows why he does things and theres a reason he has blessed me with another...if i couldnt handle it or make things work he wouldnt have given him to me....

[vro1991]

^^ i think the reason things are blown so far out now is because beck then it was typical or even welcomed for women to go to college and have careers. Plus now there are so many drugs and things that younger generations can get into that wasn't really around back then. Plus the older generations also worked all the time, when the depression hit it was verry typical for the women to drop outout of school around 6th and 8th grade and  just work around the house whereas some boys stayed in school and some went to family farms. Things have changed so peoples mindsets have changed. Also kids were getting married at 13 and being together sometimes 80 years. Now people are having sex with whatever walks in front of them and marriage is not even part of their vocabulary.

[vro1991]

It was not typical*

[Fe411Fe]

I'm 20 and it was unintentional but it happened so we are dealing with it but i did come across a girl i go to school with and she is also 20, has a two year old, and a one year old and is trying to get pregnant. When i asked why she said that the more kids she has the more money she gets when she files taxes... That i don't think is right

[dopeasslexxx]

My PregnancyWasnt Intentional . & I Can HHonestly Say I Didn't Want kids At This Age. Im 19 & a Ftm ill Be 16 Weeks Tomorrow & i Can Say Without A Doubt My Child Is The Best Thing That Has Happened To Me . I Will Say This Tho He/She Will Be My Only One For About 4-5 yrs .

[Renaroo42]

I'm 19 years old and this pregnancy wasn't necessarily planned but it wasn't a mistake either. We weren't using protection, we were just going with the flow. My husband is a Marine so we are financially stable. But since the moment we found out I was pregnant we were both very happy. I'm so excited, were having a little baby girl and I've always wanted babies of my own, I love kids and grew up helping taking care of my nieces and nephews. Its not that we were rushing into having a baby it just happened and I wouldn't change it for the world. My husband already has another daughter from a previous marriage, but he wants a big family and now we just decided to start early. I think it would be compltely different if I wasn't married though, but I love my husband he is my soul mate so I'm happy that I'm having my baby now at this time!

[Aqsash]

I am 21 and pregnant and im married aswell my husband is 35 and since we have met we fell in love n we decided to get married.im so excited to be a mom n its the best feeling ever specialy when ur in love with ur partner.my pregnancy was the best gift god gave me n im really happy

[bianmomma]

I'm 20 years old on my third pregnancy with my baby boy being 18 months . I don't think that 21 is a young age at all. my husband and I planned our baby boy even though we weren't married we both knew we wanted a big family and be young enough to enjoy all of our children . my son saved me from myself I live for him and my baby in the oven . government considers 18 a legal age to do "grown up" things but frowns on pregnancies , please god is in charge he knows why those who are blessed with babies have them .

[jasrell]

I don't think 21 is young. I am that age and I believe that if its meant for you then it will happen. I am very mature for my age and even though my first pregnancy was not planned just the fact of me carrying a child made me even more responsible.i think it just has to do with your values and how you are as a parent

[4Nheaven1here]

Did any of you ladies graduate from High School? If so did anyone want to go to college perhaps? Anyone working? Also was getting one's self established so you didn't have to depend on anyone even cross mind's?

[beccak12]

I'm 19 years old and currently pregnant with baby number one.. I've always wanted children and everyone that was friends with me and parents friends asked if I was going to give my child up. ABSOLUTELY NOT! I chose to have sex unprotected, I chose to keep this child. No one can judge me for having a child. I'm in college and graduated from high school. I am due in two weeks and am taking two college courses and am waiting for my apartment to be ready for me. My currentfiance (not baby's father) is financially supporting us and people can judge if they want to. I don't understand why everyone wants to judge young mothers? If they are happy and can take care of their children and themselves then what is son wrong with that???

[JaidennsMommi]

I stopped going to school when i was 14, i had to take care of the house and raise my two younger brothers, but right when i turned 16.5 i signed up to do my GED and finished within 6 months of goin to class twice a week for 3 hrs

[JaidennsMommi]

Also iv worked since i was 14, worked as a waitress full time at 16

[Desi1121]

I graduated highschool early at 15.
I have two jobs and am helping support me and my family:) I'm going to start college here soon as well(:

[Desi1121]

^Ive been a waitress since i was 14.
Of course when I started i worked under the table til I was 16.  

[anm89]

My husband and I were told by my doctor when I was 19 that I had a very small chance of conceiving because my endometriosis was so bad. So we got married immediately and one later I was prego. I was 19 and he was 22. I'll admit that it wasn't the smartest decision, but it has been the best one that we ever made. We have a beautiful son named Landon, who is now 4. He's autistic, loving, smart, and gives the best hugs in this world. After he turned 2, we decided that we wanted him to have a sibling. It took 2 years of trying but now we are expecting a baby girl on Christmas day. I will be 24 and my husband 27. We are still quite young, but we love our children more than words can express. =)

[anm89]

One month later*.

[MommyDani01]

I'm 17 and yea I know I'm very young to be having a baby but of course i didnt plan it and I am very responsible and I'm graduating early from high school for my daughter and I do work as well..I plan to start college next August when things are more settled..I do have to add that in my opinion once you are 18 and can support a baby financially then there shouldn't be a problem to me. Also I don't think 21 is too young and I believe that young moms can still go to school and accomplish whatever they set their mind to accomplish like college just because your a mom doesn't make it impossible it would just be harder and it's just ppl making girls think they can't. I'm not going to depend on anybody but kailyn off of teen mom 2 is an example she didnt have anybody not even family and ended up doing it all on her own

[desdecker2349]

Im 18. i didnt plan it but wasnt trying To prevent it either. I am very mature. My boyfriend And I have been.together for a Long time. And We both wanted kids. Im in college, making something of myself And i see nothing wrong with having a baby. We are financially stable And i know We will both do a great job. I dont think its necassarily about the age, but the mind set.