in need of advice

[Cls413]

I am 19 and pregnant with my first child me and my boyfriend have made the choice not to have this child ( please no one judge ) I am having second thoughts I am wondering if I am making the right choice my next doctors appointment I am supposed to schedule a ultras sound to make sure how far along I am and was on the.contraceptive depo prevera ! Never faltered on it I have never had the desire to have children but I am doubting weather or not to do this part of ne wonders some how through birth control im pregnant didn't that mean this baby should be born? ? Somebody anybody advice?

[Tresha12]

As a person who was forced to have an abortion by my parents I can honestly say it is not a good feeling. The aftermath is ridiculous. It makes you feel like less of a person. What you want morning sickness or the sickness of mourning. The choice is always yours don't let anyone judge you or force you into it

[Sstancil92]

I'm 19 as well and when I first found out I was pregnant my husband said I had to get an abortion. At first I agreed because I'm thinking I'm so young how can I raise a baby. After getting my ultrasound and hearing a heartbeat and seeing lil fingers n toes I couldnt do it. Why not think about.adoption not all women were blessed with child bearing abilities so give the gift  to someone else.

[trying43]

Just remember don't let anyone push you into a decision.  Its 100% yours.  I think you know what the right one is in your heart.  Just by you being on here asking questions says a lot.  I do wish you the best of luck.

[Cls413]

I know everyone is just giving advice I mean I am asking for it atleast everyone on here is friendly and not judgmental !! I wonder how life will go and if ill have a awnser soon

[Aubreys_mommy]

I was somewhat in your situation... I'm 20 and now 22 weeks pregnant with a little girl. She's my first baby. Before I got pregnant, I was staying with my aunt going to 2 colleges and working. I was really working hard ya kno? But everything took a turn in life when I found out I was pregnant.. when I told my aunt, she told me I couldn't live there anymore unless I had an abortion.. by boyfriend said he would support my decision either way it went. But I couldn't do that to my baby. It made me sick thinking that the people I love would want me to do something like that to my child. I fell in love with my baby since the day I found out she was growing inside of me. Yes, I had to move, quit my schools, and my job. I know it isn't going to be easy. But I do have a few people left that supports my decision and is helping me through this. Just think long and hard about your options. Nobody said life would be easy. But I honestly think I wouldn't have been able to live with myself if I had done that. Adoption is a good aoption if your totally not ready for a baby. I wasn't ready either, but me and my boyfriend are doing what we have to do to make sure she will have what she needs and a stable environment to live in. Just think about this before making any decisions u will regret. I don't regret my decision because I kknow our daughter will be loved and taken care of. Good luck.

[Destani214]

I had an abortion and lookingg back i do wish i had not, its not that everything didnt work out b/c it did but it's just something that i wish I hadnt done. I can also understand getting preggo by a miracle. I have birthed 4 children the last of one was born sept 21 2011 I proceeded to have a tubal ligation and I am now 8 weeks preggo. I cannot tell you how upset I was or kinda still am. I just didnt and don't want any more but after actually having kids i couldnt ever have another abortion.

Make the choice for you! Think about it hard and no one can tell you but you. You will be ok either way trust me!! Now I just need to take my own advice and get on board with the fact that Im preggo lol