step kid

[twinsohlord]

I'm really starting not to like this little girl I understand her mom has taught her the wrong things but how man times do I have to get called a ***** because you can't get ur way and today she called me ***** five times in a row  and kick me in my stomach ... My feelings are hurt terribly

[twinsohlord]

Also iwhen we move she's gonna stay with us for a month and hopefully more time with is will help her learn better habits but personally I know this lil girl way better than y'all an she knows what she doing for her to know to say ***** when she's upset and to kick me after just an hour ago kissing and rubbing my belly saying baby baby I love baby don't sit here n say oh she's only two she knows right from wrong that's why she said sorry with no one telling her too

[twinsohlord]

A @thirdtimemum I do not treat her badly first and for most I treat her very well that's why my feelings are hurt from her action

...

As far as talking to her mom no that's not going to happen she calls my baby retarded and says such horrible things about me n my bf so no not gone work

[missymarie214]

Not only is it a parenting issue, but obviously this child has some issues that spanking with never solve. Child therapy is really a good tool to figure some of these things out, because honestly, you can spank her all you want, but it'll never change the behavior if it's stemming from elsewhere. I'd imagine having such a confusing family situation would be hard on any 2 year old, and the only way a kid can express their emotions is through acting out. Her acting like an *** is equal to an adult explaining their feelings about a negative situation. Try thinking of some different ways to connect to her instead of pushing her away, because that's probably all she wants is some stability, and someone she can trust and is there for her.

[NovemberMomma90]

But with given permission to do so of course.  I would want to know that my parent gave permission to discipline me.  *** whopping doesn't have to be the answer.  There are so many ways to discipline their children without having to touch them. It's up to who ever is doing the discipline to make that decision. I think that however this person would like to handle their step child is her business,  and simply would like support or advice on how to handle the situation. Best of luck and I'm sorry your having such a difficult time

[kcanario]

I agree scarlet. Its sad. I wish I could have her and im expecting child #3! The poor child is TWO!!!!!

[scarletbegoniass]

Wish I could "like" your post. I'm disgusted by the way some people are talking about a two year old.

[NovemberMomma90]

I grew up in a broken home with a step mother and she had the right to punish me when I was disrespectful.  My step father also had the right to discipline me. If someone is spending money on YOUR child when they are away at the other parents house then they have the right to discipline them. Not doing so would just be confusing for that child and only make the situation worse knowing they could get away with murder at the other home.

[kcanario]

Way adults can. Maybe see about keeping her with you for a longer period of time like a week or so and see how she acts when she doesnt go back to her mother. I agree with the previous post. When she acts out tell her you will not speak to her until she calms down and can talk. Put her in a room shut the door and walk away. Of course she is going to throw things and such but there will be a point she will over exhaust herself and calm down. When she calms down:thank her and try to speak to her. Tell her what she did was wrong and then try a bonding activity. Show her u are not the enemy and she will grow to love u.

[kcanario]

She is 2 years old. If a whopping didnt work there are other ways. I understand you are upset and hurt.  I would be too. But you have to take a deep breath and be the adult. How often does she come over? Maybe the back and forth has her confused and due to the fact she is 2 yrs old she cant express it the

[thirdtimemum]

The way all you women are talking is quite disgusting, going on about how this child deserves a beating for kicking you in the stomach, throwing tantrums and disrespecting you, she is TWO years old!!!! Not 12 years old!! Hearing of how her own mother treats her badly, and then coming to her dad's place and getting treated badly.......I just want to grab that little girl in my arms and love and protect her! You can tell her off for naughty things and explain to her 'no' but you have to remember she is TWO years old, and does not have an adult concept of what is 'disrespecting' and you shouldn't expect her to. Yes, you can teach her right from wrong, in a way that a child should be able to comprehend, even though I am in favor of a little spanking if need be, it doesn't sound like this is the right way to go about it with this little girl. She is messed up, it makes me feel so sad for her, maybe you should try and see a family counsellor together and explain the situation and get help with working out some parenting techniques to help her.

[delilahhhxo_]

Maybe she needs a little *** whooping lol of course when they are little you dont beat the **** out of them but if her mom can't discipline her, at least her dad needs to so she knows she can't act like that with yall. It's all wrapped around respect, she needs to learn morals & one day she won't act like that thanks to you if you take action now cus her mom just going to have her act like a rug rat all her damn life girl that **** wouldn't fly with me. I would have to check her mommy cause its really not the baby's fault that's all she knows, think about it..we expect these children to know right from wrong but when they are getting taught acting like that is right that's all they know they see nothing wrong with it. So when she's in your household lay it down. Lay Down the rules, don't let a kid step on your toes, yall are the adults, she needs to follow yalls expectations but it's up to you to show her right from wrong, don't swoop to her level of inmaturity. You feel me?

[Aracely1224]

I understand you my step son is the worst hes 13 years old and he makes my life imposible everytime he comes over. He trues to get me in trouble with my bf saying I make him faces when I dont im almost due and I get braxton hicks and I lay most of the day and I make painful faces and he says I make him faces when Im judt focus on me and my baby and trying to figure out if its false labour or in going into labor since its my first baby he ven went as far as to tell his mom and we all got into fights and I got mad because not even at my own house I can be confterble like gello now if he comes I go and eat outside by myself my bf believes everything he says hes just jelouse because if the baby to come. Hes also very rude to me and my mom he wants to out all day and always wants my bf to take him to buy exoensive stuff and then when he leaves my bf is all stressed out saying were short on money and stufff I dont tell hin nothing no more because ive tikd hik to cut him off slowly and now with baby were gonna havr more expenses idk honestly they are rude whenever you spoil them to much. . And its the oarents fault.  

[SarahBeth1226]

Okay.....depending on what state you are in, step parents are not allowed to use corporal punishment unless you have legal guardianship. Secondly, a two year old can not process things the way adults do. Talking to the child wikk result in the best outcome. I also recommend behavioral therapy. I am a step parent myself. I have been to every therapy session with my step daughter. She only went for one year. My point is that with behavioral issues, spanking only makes it worse. You have to find the cause of the anger, then find the solution. I hope you all do the right thing and get that child professional help. Best wishes.

[LadyBeeley]

I worked with behavioral children. Shes doing all this because shes getting attention. Its NEGATIVE attention. But shes getting it. Next time she starts up, look at her and in a plain voice say "I will not talk to you again until you can talk in a quiet voice and not call mr names.". Then what you do is ignore her. Yeah things will be knocked over, thrown, she will yell and cuss and have the biggest hissy ever. YOU HAVE TO IGNORE IT. The MOMENT she quiets down, say thank you. If she starts back up repeat the process. Wait for those moments when shes quiet and thank her, making sure you look at her and smile. I know its hard and such a long process but it works.  When she has a few good moments be sure to suggest doing something fun and easy, paint her nails or get her a treat. Jist trust me here. Ive been through this sooo much with sooo many kids. It works.

[bethany092914]

Twinsohlord is protecting her unborn baby. She got hit in the stomache by a child.All she did was spank the little girl. The father is the one who whooped the little girl. Since when are step parents not allow to discipline their step kids. She didn't beat the child and she didn't spank her for no reason. No mother should be upset by that.... she didn't do anything out of line...

[alisonk170]

This pore child is being neglected buy her mother and now her fathers new partner doesn't seem to want to bother to try ad help her she needs some one tho cate for her and set rules and consequences. Yes its hard my step son used to b similar but with a little persistence he is now a well behaved helpfully young gentleman. It is not the child's fault that  the mother spoils her. She also is probably scared that her dad is going to love the new baby more    

[twinsohlord]

I definitely don't beat the shzt out if her he whooped her so bad I tried to stop him  im just tired of her shxt n her mom's shxt now since she been acting ridiculous at home she wants her over here like she scared of her

[layahsMommy15]

Im with twinsohlord me bein a mom n bein raised by my mother nd STEPDAD my mama never let me disrespect him bcusx he took care of me ..now if you were to beat my child then id have a problem with yu bt she kicked you n called you out of your name you as a grown woman needed to spank her lil but ! Bein 2 gives you no lead way why because your walking,talking and parents are supposed to b teaching you right from wrong! With her mother bein 19 nd lettng it go on means she is immature n is soon gnna catch hell from the lil girl bcsx she is lettn her get away with so much!nd i would do the same exact thang by saying do not send her over if she cant act right bcusx she is pregnant nd cant handle all that not only that bt who wants a bad kid around there kids ??its juss teaching your bby bad habits!srry bt i agree with you 100% id give my bby ddys gf the right to whoop her ! Just not beat the sxxt out of her!

[twinsohlord]

I actually do is the word children I don't care how u feel I wasn't raised to disrespect anyone n neither was my my bf so he gets me n he was  perfectly Ol with it n apparently so is her mom cause she's told him to keep her here cause she needs to learn its not OK .... Girl u so pressed about my business ... Lol funny fact is what I do with mines is my business..  Oh n yes I've had my child act up n I beat that *** n my granny did too an when daddy came home he got in that *** too never happened again my kids yes ma'am no ma'am why cause I Dont tolerate the bs

[twinsohlord]

Ignoring her Dont work she knows if she's loud enough or it goes on long enough he'll give in ... Today was the day he showed her that ish Dont work and its crazy cause if its just me n her she knows better once I let her cry over ice cream for two hours just put my head phones in and tuned her out ... She's crazy in the words of her granny ... Everyone says she's a lil devil its OK I'm just going to send her home n we'll see how she acts next time I see her ... N I Dont whoop her all the time but she deserved it today ..

[AdylinsMommy101214]

The fact that you say you'd beat your children, send them to get another beating, then beat them again really says something about you. Do you even have biological children?

[twinsohlord]

Congratulations u have someone who agrees with you lol

[MissJessGolden]

She sounds a lot like my little cousin when my cousin was that age. She wants attention and one way to get the behavior to change is to ignore her when she behaves like that. A lot of kids do it for attention and when they realize they won't get the attention be behaving like that they stop.

[AdylinsMommy101214]

THANK YOU RyleesMommy!!!!