Thanks!ive been considering ewhat everyones saying ans hope things will . Improve . Or else I will take action and leave as I wanna be a role model for my daughter.
You just explain my marriage (know divorced since ddaughter was1) i was 24 with first baby). I am 31 know and pregnant with a 21 year olds baby (he was in the marine though so he is very manly. The same stuff happened to me at age 24 that u r going through. When i had the baby i was in hospital for 3 days didnt see him once. I even caught him shaking my baby. Life to short go with your gut instinct. Do u think he can change. Yes 7 yrs is a long time but will u and your baby be happy and safe with him. Remember u r young there are a lot of other nive guys out there. I not saying right now but maybe aftet the baby and u gey situated and the baby is older.
If i want to talk or have any questions please i am here for u.
Stick to your guns girl, don't let him run u into the ground. Not healthy. ..
Thanks so much for your insight and I plan to defonitly do some thinking ! And ive had a big talk with him explaining exactly how I feel and how hes hurt me and he seems to have turned around a bit but nothing concreate.. im hoping after babys born he will see what a gem we are and fight for us or else I cant be with him . Id rather be a single mother than try and raise my child in an unhealthy environment.
Word of advice: It doesn't change. Most of the time, it does not change. Do you really want your daughter raised by someone who treats a woman he should be super in love with and respectful after 7 years together like sh*t? I wouldn't. He's already showing signs he doesn't care about the baby at all. No interest in involving himself in the pregnancy, no interest in helping with names, reading one chapter in a book, making you do heavy lifting he KNOWS you should not do because he told you not to, etc. All red flags. Do you have anywhere you can go?
Make sure it's really the baby's interest that's keeping you there and that it's truly in the baby's best interest for him to have an active role as a father and not your pride/worry of how it will look having a baby by someone you were with seven years and never married.
Pros and cons lists as well as introspective journaling could be very helpful in this situation. Look back at how he's been throughout the relationship. Have there been warning signs of this behavior you were ignoring or lessening or has this really come out of the blue? On the one hand, it could go completely south. On the other hand, it might not. However, answering important questions honestly to yourself will help you make an informed decision.