Hello,
I am at a loss. I just moved in with my boyfriend of 3 years. I don't know whether to move out (I live with my 15 year old daughter too, and we can't afford this new house by ourselves) or stay and try to make it work. He is 47 - I am 44.
We have lived in this new house for 5 months. When we moved in together, he quit his job of 15 years to try this new business venture, which flopped. He has now been out of work for 6 weeks, and has one potential job offer, but isn't actively looking and won't go back to his old job out of pride. He says he doesn't know who he is anymore, and is really upset and feels like a failure.
I am starting to panic because he is running out of money. I also don't think he has been making very good decisions. He has started increasing his drinking and already has two prior drunk drivings. One night he came home after drinking. Another night he didn't come home at all, and all I got was a text at 3:15 a.m. saying he was too drunk to drive home. I was so mad I couldn't sleep. I feel like he doesn't care about me because he isn't being responsible or considerate. Now he left to go away for 5 days to a blues festival with his drinking buddies. I am really mad again.
Should I stay with him?
Thanks for any help.