Senior compatibility

[blithespirit]

I am a senior person who has been living with an interesting woman for 7 years and she seems incapable of showing any affection to me. I, on the other hand, have shown her lots of affection but gradually stopped. I am not sure if this is a good way to live. We seem to have little fun with each other. She does not want to talk about any problem. I have tried many times to get her to talk over our problems and she objects to it. She says I have a problem, not her.   I have resorted to this form of communication because I need to talk with someone to help in some way.  Thank you for any constructive thoughts.

[teko]

Life is too short. And I am not trying to be funny by the way!  It is, it is simply too short to live with someone who is not fulfilling your needs. Ya know! It sounds like the two of you are with each other for companionship and there is nothing wrong with that. Friends with benefits is what you need to tell her you want. And all that goes with it.

I know lots of people stay together for a multitude of reasons, but if you dont feel loved, what is the benefit.

[specialmom]

Well, I don't think being a senior has anything to do with it, to be honest.  Some relationships just aren't that great.  You say that you two aren't enjoying one another's company much anymore, there is a lack of affection that you desire, and poor communication.  If you were younger, would you leave her?  I do think that when we want a partner to act a certain way, we act that way first and they follow suit.  But it sounds like you've tried this.  So, I guess you have to decide if staying in this relationship is worth it at the risk of not finding anyone else.  (which you probably will!)  good luck (and no matter how old you are, you deserve to be happy.)