Sexless

[Sweet_Monti]

Me and my husband have been married for 2years. When we met he was doing everything in the bedroom I couldnt ask for more. I am 5months pregnant & the sex has stopped. I am very sarcastic & I ask my husband are you cheating...Do I stink....Whats wrong only to get no answer.
We tried to have sex 1 time and he couldnt get hard. I asked again are you cheating or is something wrong? He said he took too much motrin and it made him impotent.    
After we got married it seems like the sex stopped on his end. I complained & complained & eventually our sex life improved. Months later NOW, for 2months Our sex life is so horrible I have complained & complained and even thought about stepping out to fullfill my needs or i'm going to leave. I am preganant & cant put my baby at risk but my oh my what do I do? I am sexually frustrated. When we do do it he only last like 5minutes. I am so so so so frustrated what am I to do? I really do think my husband is stepping out & maybe he can't get it up and stay hard for me. I'm confused & kind of losing my patience. Help!!!

[perch101]

I think you have to address this to your husband from another angle than you're currently using  - being sarcastic, asking him 'do I stink' 'are you cheating' is not exactly going to endear you to him and get him to open up. You say you are very sarcastic - I would cut that out - thats not helping at all - I mean I get that your frustrated but when you approach him in this way he'll just get resentful, shut down, and nothing will be resolved.

I think the best thing to do is communicate to him NICELY - explain how you've noticed a dramatic change in your sex life, ask if he knows why. He mentioned the motrin - yes some meds do cause impotancy - also thats a pain reliever - perhaps he has pain - that dosen't exactly put you in the mood. Could it be because your preganant? Sit down with him and ask him calmly without accuasations or sarcam.
Also - threatening to find somone else to 'fulfill your needs' is childish and selfish - you are about to have a baby and you have a husband who dosen't deserve that. Sorry if it offends you to hear that but that but I think it's something you need to hear - you have a husband and baby on the way and you don't want to do something to ruin all your lives - and don't automatically think he must be cheating because he has a low libido at the moment - if you have no other evidence pointing to that it is detrimental  to your marriage to accuse him of it.

Good Luck.

[seeana]

Well I agree with perch ! how can you be so insulting and mean.The pressure on him would be enormous the male has one fear in his life and that is not getting an erection.
When it happens you should be very supportive and caring Never Ever make a big deal out of it ...he must be going through hell, if you are aggressive about your sex life with any male this could happen.

So you are thinking about having an affair ? well if it goes on for too long I would suggest to you that you have a few guys lined up because if this is how you act you  could leave a list of limp and damaged ego's behind you.

You are married and its called making love not sex.Loving romantic times together are wonderful.Have you ever thought that you are the problem not him ????

You certainly do not seem the most sensitive woman out there, as its all about you you you.What About Him.....

I think you have some maturing to do before its too late.

[teko]

Maybe he is afraid he will hurt the baby, or maybe he feels pressured to perform therefore not being able to. I do agree that enticing him with honey will get you more than by using vinegar. Sounds like you guys are not communicating very effectively. Congratulations on the baby.