Cheating Wife please help

[Watsonxx]

I am out of the country since 2 months now. I am hearing rumors about my wife having an affair and sexual relationship with my cousin. I am terrified by this news. We have been married for 2 years now and dont have a kid yet.
I am going back to my country after 2-3 weeks.
I just wanted to know is there any way where in i can do a medical test to determine whether my wife had sex in the last 2 months or not??
Please reply as this is bothering me alot and i cant concentrate on work as well.

[Watsonxx]

Hello everyone..I would like an advise from all of you..I am back to my home country and eventually after confronting my wife and finding out the facts she confessed that she slept with my cousin who is 10 yrs younger to her..My cousin doesnt knw that i have come to know abt this...I am shattered and devastated..I am not able to sleep, i want to divorce my wife as i dont have kids yet. I cant take the fact that my younger cousin bro who used to call my wife his mother did something like this.. My life seems to be over..She is crying and requesting me to give her last chance.she doesnt need a divorce..My Mom n dad  doubt her but they dont know i have made her confess...How do i handle it..I loved her so much..Gave her everything that she wanted..I never cheated on her..And i am just not able to digest the fact that she slept with him for atleast 3-4 times..I get dirty thoughts about what all she must have done with him..I cant sleep anymore..dont feel like touching her..I hate her..But at the same time i cant live without her..I need to take a decision..Please tell me whethr to divorce her or accept his ****...I pity for her at the same time as i know for the fact that if i leave her then her life is going to be a living hell..As her mom  is a divorcee and doesnt talk to her since she married me..She has no one to take care of her if i leave her..PLEASE HELP ME WITH A SOULTION...OR ELSE MAKE HER AND MY COUSIN COME IN FRONT OF THE ENTIRE FAMILY AND CONFESS...

[specialmom]

I think Rockrose had an idea for you.  

I don't really think confronting and accusing is the way to go when you first arrive home.  What if you are wrong?  You haven't seen anything for yourself.  Go home, get back into each other's lives and see what you think for yourself.  

Tell your family that unless they have REAL proof to stop talking about this.  

good luck

[Paigiepoo]

Aw i am so sorry to hear this. It is heartbreaking that you feel this way.  I really think that you should confront, not accuse, but confront her about this when you get home. See how she reacts, focus on her body language to determine if she is lying or hiding something. Confront your cousin too and get the story from your family. All you can do is gather information and go from there. But i would definitely wait to do it in person because over an e-mail or a phone call gives her time to lie easily or make up excuses. So just do it in person so you can really see her reaction. I hope the rumors are all untrue! For now, when you do speak with her on the phone, be distant towards her, get her worrying and shaking in her boots a little. If she is cheating on you she deserves to be paranoid. Good Luck.

[RockRose]

Goodness your family is a chatty bunch!

It seems the obvious way to figure this out,  though,  is to have your brother set this up again,  and leave to go to the grocery store but come back in about 5 minutes because he forgot his wallet.

Then you'll know.

[Watsonxx]

Thanks all for your suggestions..The reason i brought this topic up is because my cousin is about 10 yrs younger to my wife..When i was  home they were in constant touch as he used to come home n meet us..The doubt comes in when my cousin and wife were alone at my place and  my wife unnecessarly asked my younger  bro to go down to the grocery to get things.. this happened 2-3 times..so my bro who is also 18 started suspecting  and informed my mom n dad.. my parents told me about all this which is worring me more..i dont knw how to confront this in from of my wife..should i just accuse her once i am back?? i am going mad..please help.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Being apart for two months as you have been must be really hard and make you feel disconnected from your wife.  I'm sorry about that.

I don't believe there are any medical tests to determine if she has been unfaithful and don't think that would be the route to go anyway.  

Instead, I would come home and be happy to be there.  Don't believe anything unless you have reason to after you get home.  People misconstrue things all of the time.  Get home and reconnect with her.  Check out what the vibe is after you have done that.  Reconnect with your cousin and see how he acts.  And work on communication with your wife so that you can talk about fear and suspicions naturally without driving yourself crazy just wondering.  

Do not accuse her of anything!! Assume it didn't happen unless she gives you reason upon your return to talk about it with her.  good luck and I hope the reunion goes well.