I don't find my wife attractive

[Paulfisher12]

I have a problem and it isn't getting any better. About seven years ago, I met my wife and we began going out. I am American and my wife is from Europe (If that matters); the long and short of it is - my wife does not sure me on sexually. When we first started doing out, we would make out but I just didn't feel like having sex, it wasn't that I didn't want to have sex with a women, I did and still do. The problem I have is, it just is never her.

I know I have problems, and she is bad tempered and kind of flares upeasily, I just don't want to deal with her sometimes. So why did I marry her, well she had a lot of good qualities and to be honest I just thought the sex part of the relationship would work itself out, but I want sex but not with her. I do a lot of masturbating, but I am afraid I going to crack and try to pick up other women which I don't want to do.

I am confused and scared, I don't know why she does't turn me in. When we first met, she weighed 180 pounds and was 5"2. I was turned off by her obesity - but I could never say anything because she would flare up. I just don't know what to do with her, I think at the time we went out I was at a really low point in my life, I had been shafted by a couple of women I really wanted, but in reality I have been shy around women by whole life, and I settled because I didn't think I could do any better?

So why didn't she walk, well she got a green card out of the deal...so what do I do. I don't want to get this women and really screw up
my life and the kids. I am really depressed about this

thanks

[Paulfisher12]

In many ways we make excellent friends so why can't the romance part work too?

[Paulfisher12]

Yes I would say my life is perhaps better having her in it than out if - I just she is unhappy about the sex part and she may bolt and I am so afraid that if I don't please her in that department she is gone

[Paulfisher12]

Without a wife probably not. I am not a solitary creature

[cheshchesh819]

yes but what would life be like without your wife,could you be happy

[Paulfisher12]

Friends family security love stability pride and success

[Paulfisher12]

Life of course