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I need to convice my parents to let me sleep with my bf(:
Hey I'm Hannah and I'm almost 18(:
Me and my boyfriend have only been together for a week but on and off for 8 months, we are ready to just spend the night together. That's it. No sex or anything (I'm a virgin and he respects that) But I don't know how to ask my mom is I can stay at his place for the night and well him staying here. My sister just turned 20 and is a lesbian, her and her gf started dating when she was 17 and my parents let them sleep together with no problem but my mom doesn't even want my boyfriend to get to comfy with me on the couch. She lets him stay over until 1am but I know she will not let him staying the night happen. Any advice?
Me and my boyfriend have only been together for a week but on and off for 8 months, we are ready to just spend the night together. That's it. No sex or anything (I'm a virgin and he respects that) But I don't know how to ask my mom is I can stay at his place for the night and well him staying here. My sister just turned 20 and is a lesbian, her and her gf started dating when she was 17 and my parents let them sleep together with no problem but my mom doesn't even want my boyfriend to get to comfy with me on the couch. She lets him stay over until 1am but I know she will not let him staying the night happen. Any advice?
you know thats how I felt the first few months with my girls parents :) we had absolutely no privacy at all but after time went by it got better and better I haven't stayed at her house but thats my choosing..
anyway u say you have been on and off for 8 months thats not really long enough for your parents to develop trust in you two especially if its a on and off relationship.
anyway u say you have been on and off for 8 months thats not really long enough for your parents to develop trust in you two especially if its a on and off relationship.
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Agree with Rockrose. My mother would have had a heart attack if I asked her if I could spend the night with my boyfriend at 17. When you are independent, then you can spend the night anywhere you please but that she still wants to know where you are means you are so not there yet.
Don't stress---- time passes quickly and you'll be in charge and can make decisions good and bad for yourself soon enough. (I'm just wondering about on again and off again for 8 months but going out for a week and wanting to sleep together . . . and you are a virgin but still want to spend the night with him and etc. etc. etc.)
Good luck and remember, time really does go fast. You'll be in charge soon enough.
Don't stress---- time passes quickly and you'll be in charge and can make decisions good and bad for yourself soon enough. (I'm just wondering about on again and off again for 8 months but going out for a week and wanting to sleep together . . . and you are a virgin but still want to spend the night with him and etc. etc. etc.)
Good luck and remember, time really does go fast. You'll be in charge soon enough.
Hmm. I can't imagine, at 17, I would have even thought to ask my parents if my BF could spend the night at my house, or me at his.
New Year's weekend both my college sons (22 and 21) had their girlfriends here from out of town and even they didn't sleep together here in my home although I would guess they do in college.
They're not married. Here in my home, they will sleep in separate areas.
New Year's weekend both my college sons (22 and 21) had their girlfriends here from out of town and even they didn't sleep together here in my home although I would guess they do in college.
They're not married. Here in my home, they will sleep in separate areas.
Sweetheart almost 18, and on & off for 8 mths, back together for only a week is not good grounds for an argument. Sex or no sex your mom is probably trying to protect you and she probably thinks its only a matter of time before you guys are "off" again. Take it from me, sometimes no matter how good your intentions are, sleeping next to the person you are with or even attracted to can turn into something you hadn't intended it to.
You may see that it was unfair for your mother to allow your sister to sleep with her girlfriend when she was 17 but was your sister in a good, stable relationship? That may be why your mother allowed this among other reasons. To be honest he's lucky he gets to stay until 1 a.m. If it were my parents he would need to leave by 11 because 12 a.m. and onwards in their mind is spending the night LOL.
Just wait a moment and if you two are really serious this time and can prove that to your mother then maybe she will allow it. I am not saying its right and it is something that I would let my daughter do but everyone views things differently. When I turned 18, my parents started to loosen their reigns and pretty soon I got to spend the night sometimes even weekends with my boyfriend.
Take care and please do not grow up too fast, you may hear this all the time but the world is tough, its not all sugar and spice and everything nice.
You may see that it was unfair for your mother to allow your sister to sleep with her girlfriend when she was 17 but was your sister in a good, stable relationship? That may be why your mother allowed this among other reasons. To be honest he's lucky he gets to stay until 1 a.m. If it were my parents he would need to leave by 11 because 12 a.m. and onwards in their mind is spending the night LOL.
Just wait a moment and if you two are really serious this time and can prove that to your mother then maybe she will allow it. I am not saying its right and it is something that I would let my daughter do but everyone views things differently. When I turned 18, my parents started to loosen their reigns and pretty soon I got to spend the night sometimes even weekends with my boyfriend.
Take care and please do not grow up too fast, you may hear this all the time but the world is tough, its not all sugar and spice and everything nice.
Well, sorry, almost 18 is not 18.
Off and on for 8 months and only being stedy for a week is not long enough to be sleeping with someone even if it is just going to be "sleep."
As a mother I would NOT allow my 17 year old daughter to stay over a bf's house or allow the bf to stay in my home with my daughter. I can't imagine your parents let your lesbian sister and her gf sleep together in their house at the age of 17. If that is so, that would seem unfair to allow one child more freedom than the other. Unfortunately, whether fair or unfair in your eyes you are a minor and living at home with your parents. Your sister is over the age of 18 now, so......
Personally, I do not allow (for my children over 18) and I will not allow (for my children under 18 ) to sleep with anyone in my home who they aren't married to. I just don't condone that.
While you and your bf might have good intentions just to "sleep" and "cuddle" there is still that high possibility of this turning sexual.
Off and on for 8 months and only being stedy for a week is not long enough to be sleeping with someone even if it is just going to be "sleep."
As a mother I would NOT allow my 17 year old daughter to stay over a bf's house or allow the bf to stay in my home with my daughter. I can't imagine your parents let your lesbian sister and her gf sleep together in their house at the age of 17. If that is so, that would seem unfair to allow one child more freedom than the other. Unfortunately, whether fair or unfair in your eyes you are a minor and living at home with your parents. Your sister is over the age of 18 now, so......
Personally, I do not allow (for my children over 18) and I will not allow (for my children under 18 ) to sleep with anyone in my home who they aren't married to. I just don't condone that.
While you and your bf might have good intentions just to "sleep" and "cuddle" there is still that high possibility of this turning sexual.
My advice? when do you turn 18? that should be soon enough to spend the night with your boyfriend...and until then, I PERSONALLY believe your parents are right for keeping you apart at night, although you can certainly ask. I'm not sure why it was different for your sister, but I would guess it's because your sister's girlfriend can't get her pregnant.
Just wait....a week of a steady relationship is not a long enough time to spend the night with someone, whether or not you plan on sex, whether or not you've been on and off for 8 months. I've spent nights with boys before and I know where it usually leads....especially if you're trying NOT to let it lead there.
Just be patient....trust me, you'll enjoy spending the night with your boyfriend much more when you aren't waiting on your parent's permission to do it.
Just wait....a week of a steady relationship is not a long enough time to spend the night with someone, whether or not you plan on sex, whether or not you've been on and off for 8 months. I've spent nights with boys before and I know where it usually leads....especially if you're trying NOT to let it lead there.
Just be patient....trust me, you'll enjoy spending the night with your boyfriend much more when you aren't waiting on your parent's permission to do it.
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