Im suicidal.my husband calls me bad names and says he doesn't love me. please help?

[girl198]

thank you for reading and answering

im 24,my husband is 30
together nearly 4 years, married less than a 1 year

whenever he gets angry,

he calls me bi tch, ****, ***** etc
says he does not love me
says he wants to divorce me
says he will do what he wants and does not care if im sad or happy

and he gets angry at least once a month. it was like this before marriage too.but i married him coz i loved him very much and everytime i tell him to be good he said he will be good.. he is very good and loving when not angry. what can i do? divorce is not an option as i live in an asian country... once you are married, you are married.
will counseling help? if so, how should i approach that subject with him? whats the best way? im very glad for any answers.. i want to know how i should talk with him about going to counseling....
thank you

[girl198]

i can get lexapro what dosage shall  be given? as these doctors will not give medicine unless he goes, and they really think that this is not a problem, i would love it if you can ask a doc and advise me ..

[girl198]

he is reading the book now

you have given me a lot of ideas. im waiting to use them when he gets angry infront of me again

i see that the abuse mostly happens through texts and emails

the problem is, he wont say sorry and he will stay weeks without talking with me until i myself go and talk with him! thats how bad his anger is. and he does not care that im hurt. is this some kind of a mental disorder?


is there a way to get some of the medication without a prescription?

[specialmom]

Well, what if you stuck up for yourself to him.  He starts abusine you----  you hold up your  hand and say "STOP!  You may not talk to me that way."  Very firmly.  And if he keeps it up----  "I will NOT talk to you when  you use that language with me."  I will not talk to you again until you apologize for it.  And then don't.  He's being a bully.  That is one way to combat a bully.  

I'm throwing it out there because I'm running out of ideas for you.  If my  husband sent me a text such as you describe-----   I would text back that "I will not tolerate you speaking to me that way."  Then I would not respond to him again.  Then when he got home----  I would hold up my phone and say "this is NOT okay!"  I'd tell him he has to apologize immediately.  If he got mad----  too bad.  

This will shock him, I'm thinking at this point.  But you are a nice, intelligent woman that deserves to be treated better.  Demand it.  What do you have to loose.  

Like I said, running out of ideas.  Did that book help?

[girl198]

i met two psychiatrists. and it was totally useless. unless he is coming, they cant do anything.... and, they dont see this as a problem and told me "not to make him angry" !!

i dont know what to do.....

[girl198]

i will write on monday again... i dont come to this site when im at home. if he see this that will make him angry.

after that email, he still doesnt talk with me. didnt say sorry for using such words. he is still angry

[girl198]

i meant "you cant teach me" he will tell me that if i try to remind him the anger management techniques