Im suicidal.my husband calls me bad names and says he doesn't love me. please help?

[girl198]

thank you for reading and answering

im 24,my husband is 30
together nearly 4 years, married less than a 1 year

whenever he gets angry,

he calls me bi tch, ****, ***** etc
says he does not love me
says he wants to divorce me
says he will do what he wants and does not care if im sad or happy

and he gets angry at least once a month. it was like this before marriage too.but i married him coz i loved him very much and everytime i tell him to be good he said he will be good.. he is very good and loving when not angry. what can i do? divorce is not an option as i live in an asian country... once you are married, you are married.
will counseling help? if so, how should i approach that subject with him? whats the best way? im very glad for any answers.. i want to know how i should talk with him about going to counseling....
thank you

[specialmom]

It is sad and makes me happy for the freedom I have.  But I am married and I would give my marriage the best chance of recovery either way.  It is disappointing that he will not go to therapy at this time.  He definately needs it.  You should continue to go yourself and get strategies that may help deal with him or ideas that you could give him to use to control his own anger.  He may say he is motivated to change and accept the information you give him, at least.  Then you can see if it has any affect.  If it continues to escalate or moves torwards your feeling unsafe . . . you DO have to protect yourself----  culture or now.  I would think about what if that becomes the case, what your options are so that if you find yourself in that situation you will know how to handle it.  You sound smart and capable----- I have no doubt there will be an answer.  Make sure you are addressing any depression issues you are having and remember to remain hopeful.  I have seen worse situations than this recover.  And I've seen women who have felt trapped find a solution to freedom.  Good luck.

[younggrandmother]

I'm sorry his brother was unable to help. We can only help the ones who wont it. He sounds stubborn. Unfortunate y you are the only on who is suffering.  

[girl198]

im living in an asian country my dear. he flatly refused to go when his brother told him to go

[younggrandmother]

I feel so bad for you :(  it must be just miserable for you. Were do you live ? I'm having a hard time understanding how your parents and his parents would won't you to live like this.
You need to get some help. It sounds like you are not able to talk to him about your feelings. Is there any one that can help? How did his brother go about tell him to get some therapy,and what was his reaction?  

[girl198]

he refuses going to the therapist even though his brother told him to go

[girl198]

yes he is very moody. theres a lot of hate and anger inside him... and he loves taking revenge and does not care if others praise him or say something bad about him

they support me and told me to go to counseling. his brother came with me for the counseling.

he says things like he doesnt care if im sad( when he is angry)

thank you for helping me