Is a "Full" Massage cheating

[td0213]

My husband's co-workers were teasing him about not going for massages with them. He works in a Wall Street firm and needless to say the tension is crazy. Apparently these guys go for massages and the girls massage everything causing the men to ejaculate. My husband and I think this is wrong if you are married. Well you can not believe the debate this caused. Inno way are we bashing massages. I too go for them - but there is a line and we think that kind of massage is cheating. What do you men and woman think - are we prudes???

[BearHitch]

I would be surprised if their wives knew the full situation and were perfectly okay with it.  If it was me personally, I would probably discuss it with my DH as to why he was doing it and if he intended to continue.  If he chose to, I'd leave because that kind of behavior is unacceptable to me.  If he quit, I would require counseling because I am not the forgiving type and something like that would be a betrayal of my trust.  It might also depend how long he had been doing that behind my back and how much money had gone down the drain for his "activities."  What other wives would do, I have no idea.  If they can forgive, that's great- as long as they can REALLY forgive.  Holding it over someone's head the rest of yours and theirs life is no way to live.  Hope that answers your spin off question.

[pertykitty]

i doubt the wives really know, or just turn the cheek. sounds like if it is wall street the money and life they are used to might be worth more to them than confronting the husbands on this subject.

[sk2006a]

i guess ignorance is bliss.  i'm betting those men know deep down that they're cheating.

[PlateletGal]

It is amazing what men will say or do to try to condone their actions. I know a guy who is very religious and is cheating on his wife online with other women. However, it isn't cheating because it isn't real... according to him.  2 points for effort but that's it !

[freakin-natural]

massage therapy isn't cheating if you were to ask me.  but, as the world knows it, it depends on what kind of a man your are.  massage are a much help, done eversince before.  

now, lets not put the blame on man alone since nothing can happen if the women massagers or whatever they call it, helps the deed.  i mean, lets face, its a double blade sword.  you may not know what happens if you (we men) went to it and let a sexy woman do her thing and make us horny..

but a much better action may be,i guess, is the MAN-TO-MAN AND WOMAN-TO-WOMAN service.. so no cheating or such can happen again. but, anyways, we all know this is not how the world goes..so sad....

[td0213]

You do not know how right you are!!! I was at a dinner party next to a partner's wife. I knew we had nothing to talk about but tried anyway. She goes on to tell me that her husband lets her spend between $2,500 - $3,000 a month on clothes - no questions asked. She can spend more but then he may ask her why. And she in return does not bother him. I am sorry but basically she is a one man h**ker. He buys her off to accept whatever he wants to do. My husband is not a partner and making that kind of money but even if he was we are not like them. Both of us came from families that got by financially by working their tails off. And we too work very hard. And rest assured I would not accept that life style for any $$.