I have been married for 10 months now. During the several years that my husband and I were dating, we had always discussed moving out and establishing a home of our own, but he wanted me to live with his parents for a year first, as it is part of the culture, and so I agreed.
Six months into the marriage I began talking about moving out within the years time, and he would just ignore me or brush the subject off. Months later he said he didn't want to move out of his parents house, and wanted us to live with them forever and start a family there. He felt it was his "turn to take care of them" because he had had such a good childhood, and his parents had taken care of him his whole life. His mother did everything for him before we got married, from making his meals, to washing his clothes, and such. I told him that I refuse to live with his parents because of how bad my relationship has become with my mother in law and also with my husband. My father in law is pretty neutral in all this. My relationship with my husband has suffered BIG TIME, sexually, emotionally, and mentally. We don't have a lot of privacy at all, there is one tv, and we all share one bathroom. My mother in law doesn't work so she is always at home. Whenever I try to talk to my husband about these issues he gets upset with me. He says to let him tell his parents "with his own time" about us moving out, and he also says that he hates looking for houses and that he doesn't know how long its going to take for him to even like being moved out with me, even though this is what we had planned since day one.
I'm really sad about all this, and am hoping he will own up to his promise, but it is affecting my feelings now, and I'm starting to emotionally detach myself without even trying. I try to talk to him about this but he just gets upset with me and then he's so distant for a few days, and it makes it really hard for me to even gather the courage to talk to him about this. Any suggestions, or is anyone going through the same thing???