I'm 19 and so is my partner. We've been together for nearly two years. But we only have sex about once or twice a week. I do beliveve in romance, snd i do make quite a lot of effort. (going out for meals, holidays, suprise trips out and presents). But even four days in paris, nice hotel, and all the sight seeing, she was still only interested once. We do have fun, playing squash, walking dogs and the like, but the romantic side of thigs seems to be so scripted with her, i could give you details of every sexual encounte, because they have very little varation. unless i pretty much force it. I don't mind that as much as the fact that unless i push the issue, i don't think there would be any sexual encounters at all.
On the romance side of things, the only things she buys me, are things that anyone who even vaguely knows me, wouldn't get me, like chocolate, sweets and very old man ish clothes. I can't stand sweets, and she should know this, by the way i always refuse them. I am not one to beat round the bush, if i don't like something, i'll say. OBVIOUSLY, not nastily, but at some point i will make it very clear. I am not an unsensitive person.
Why does she not want to have sex with me more? I used to be madly in love with this girl but the constant rejection in the bedroom is pushing me away. There are only so many hugs and kisses i can give. I am quite a sensual person, and i do like sex. i know she enjoys it, without going into details.
But it is hard work getting her interested.
What am i doing wrong? and am i immoral for wanting to leave her because of it? I don't want to cheat on her but on drunken nights out it has been close.
Please give me your thoughs and opinions, no matter how frank.
Thanks in advance