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Question for the guys
Many men come to the relationships forum and explain how wonderful their wives or girlfriends are and that they are the most important person in their lives yet they then confess to having cheated or are having an affair--so whats the deal then?If you love your wife or girlfriend so much then what makes you stray--lets be honest now and find out the truth.Why cheat? Please explain.
I have already expressed my guilt and remorse more than once and ruined a wonderful relationship because of temptation and a moment of lust and I lost so much for so very little which is why I am so passionate about the subject matter.I want people to understand how much they stand to lose,man or woman and there are plenty of people that post on here that might not realize the seriousness of it all until it's to late.If we can help some people understand and not go there isn't that a step in the right direction.I think it is.
I've been on cheated MANY times for MANY years by my 1st husband. I have never cheated - so my opinion is strictly one-sided.
All due respect, RainLover - I think cheating comes down to a lack of Character and/or Morals. The BIGGEST sex organ is the brain - sex does not happen without thought, intent. I also think most people who cheat don't think they will be found out but that takes thought too.
Having said that RainLover, I do believe You are sincerely sorry !! and remorseful!! I also agree with You that every scenario Life360 suggested IS cheating.
Any behavior that You would not do if Your Wife/Husband was sitting beside You is the way to go.
All due respect, RainLover - I think cheating comes down to a lack of Character and/or Morals. The BIGGEST sex organ is the brain - sex does not happen without thought, intent. I also think most people who cheat don't think they will be found out but that takes thought too.
Having said that RainLover, I do believe You are sincerely sorry !! and remorseful!! I also agree with You that every scenario Life360 suggested IS cheating.
Any behavior that You would not do if Your Wife/Husband was sitting beside You is the way to go.
Ooh, Rainlover, that's one of my favorite questions - and one of the coolest things sociology majors get to discuss in college. ;D
Mammal males aren't created to be monogamous. Mammal males breed with as many females as they can - either by courting the female, or by beating other males off her by brute strength or stamina.
Humans fall in love and then out of love in about 3 years - and most men won't cheat during that time. (Some will, they're incorrigible cads). Most won't though. It's after they've fallen out of love but are still with the same woman that nature takes over and they do what their nature tells them to - mate with other women.
I'm not cynical about relationships - and I don't believe my husband of 27 years has ever cheated on me - and I think a lot of men don't cheat.
But humans aren't like birds who are created to be monogamous. Monogamous birds ARE monogamous, and it's no effort whatsoever for them. It's their nature, their preference.
Interesting question really.
Mammal males aren't created to be monogamous. Mammal males breed with as many females as they can - either by courting the female, or by beating other males off her by brute strength or stamina.
Humans fall in love and then out of love in about 3 years - and most men won't cheat during that time. (Some will, they're incorrigible cads). Most won't though. It's after they've fallen out of love but are still with the same woman that nature takes over and they do what their nature tells them to - mate with other women.
I'm not cynical about relationships - and I don't believe my husband of 27 years has ever cheated on me - and I think a lot of men don't cheat.
But humans aren't like birds who are created to be monogamous. Monogamous birds ARE monogamous, and it's no effort whatsoever for them. It's their nature, their preference.
Interesting question really.
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The bottom line is if there is something missing in the marriage or of needs aren't getting met at some point someone may cheat. Everyone has a different threshold. Some may leave rather than cheat or some may live in their own isolated mental prisons.
In the end I think it comes down to what u can live with, love and forgiveness.
Just my thoughts. Hobby