As usual, our dear mami speaks pure wisdom!
I mean being that you are a mother yourself, not you are the mother. My thoughts come out quicker than I type...lol.
I know it's hard dealing with an ex and especially when the ex is difficult. Believe me, I get it. But being that you are the mother, you can kind of understand how difficult it is when another woman is around your kids. Maybe she's insecure and intimidated of the role you play in her children's lives. Maybe she just likes having the power over her ex or gets off on the attention or likes feeling like she's number 1 in his life. Who knows but like I said, he does seem to care about your comfortability. Your issues with her our your issues. Try not to let it stand in the way of him being a father to his kids. As hard as it is sometimes. Believe me, I have sat by quietly on the sidelines as my husband's ex yelled at him through the phone about me and being mad at something that was totally misconstrued. I also had a moment of weakness and was yelling in the background. I had just had years of abuse from this woman. But in the end, it's the children that matter. So as irrational as his ex may seem, you still have to somewhat respect her position as the children's mother. If you can't then like specialmom said, maybe rethink your relationship. Good luck.
Mami1323 offered some great advice.
Two things: 1. Bf needs to set boundaries with ex.
2. Leave the drama between your bf and the ex between
your bf and the ex. Don't get involved.
I am not saying you can't voice your opinion to your bf, however, I think the above recommendations should be done.
I wrote a long long post to say what mami said in her last sentence. "Try your hardest to stay out of their issues." Well put.
Thank you i really really needed that mami... I trust him and he is completely honest always has been. She is pretty much obsessed with him, she wants that control. I always tell him that it would be good if they got along but i don't like or trust her.
One day me and her got into it because she said i yelled at one of the boys (not true they love me). Well i tried to explain to her that i love them and she wouldnt' shutup so i ended up tossing the B word around at her. Her conversation about her boys ended with "i don't want him you can have him that why i left him" uhhhh! I said that was none of my business.
I tell him to set boundries with her and i feel he does. He has changed a lot and what she did to him wasn't cool. It just bothers me i guess...
I have two kids who don't have a father so he is lucky to not have to see him..
Im trying and yes he is very very honest.. i tellin ya my moody guy is just moody. Besides that he has great qualities i trust him a lot. He always saves his texts and shows them to me because he knows it bugs me. I don't know if he should be telling me about all the times she tries to contact him but he does to be honest...