Should I Keep My Other Love or Walk Away?

[nimble_jac]

I am 46, and have been happily married for 25 years with 3 nearly grown kids; have been and still am, wildly in love with my husband.  A year ago, I met a man that I became friends with, then became attracted to.  I grew to love him dearly, and I am "in love" (romantically) with him.
My new man and I have a very deep and healthy, loving & sexual relationship, whereby communication is our first priority.  I cannot see myself without him.  My husband loves me dearly, we make each other very happy and we have an entire life together that I do not wish to change.  He does not know, nor suspect anything.  My other man and I are extremely discreet and sensitive to both our families/spouses.  My OM married young and does not not have a very happy nor fulfilling marriage (his is about 20 years).  He does not wish to leave his partner neither.  We have never been outside our marriages before, so this is no frivilous thing...nor is my question(s).
He and I are so alike, we have so much in common (that we do not have with our spouses) and have such simple, happy fun together.  
Can I honestly maintain this long term double life that we have committed ourselves to?  
Should I walk away from my wonderful OM because it's the "right thing to do", not because it's what makes us happy and complete?  

[SeriousSam]

I have never cheated on a partner but when I got married someone told me "always have an affair only with someone who is married, and has as much to lose as you do."

If you thnk about it you'll understand while an affair with married men is a bad idea.

[Jasmine205]

I say be honest and take what may come from it. It's not fair to play both sides and not want to lose one of these men, decide who means the most to you, and chose them.
And be upfront with the other and then move on.
Can a divided heart feel true love?
Can a heart riddled with guilt be ever happy?

[SeriousSam]

Know I donut nough hoo i m tocking 2.  Butte I feel asss clothes to as mi preest.

But yur thots arc valuables tomb me ent I wil in alter ways teasure them as if they *** from a lovr.

Bee blast mine frent!  No heart feelings?

[SeriousSam]

No one is perfect but give some posts are you saying let he who is without sin cast the first stone, or be the first stoned...  

LOL  I have suspicions given some of the posts but with yours I can never be sure.

[amy1439]

being the ow to a man who has been married for 28 years i can understand the neg responses we get i did'nt go into this knowing he was married by the time i found out i was pregnant there's no way i was having an abortion so now i have my son ho's three months old the physical relationship i had with this man is over he still says he loves me and wants to be with me i cant get past the fact he's married i still love this man i struggle every day what to do he does come see his son and helps me financially but what about his wife she did nothing to deserve this i want to call her every day i have never seen her or talk to her as fsr as i know she has no reason to think theres anything wrong with her marriage this could really do some damage i'm afraid to hear this out of the blue may be to much for her i really dont know what to do either other than what i did but should i deny my son the time with his father and the support he provides us  i wish i knew what to do

[sammy73]

Some of the people posting here (especially Cootos, but others as well) - I can understand why you may feel disgusted at this behaviour.  But really, your ranting posts about how horrid or evil or selfish this woman is ARE NOT HELPING ANYONE!!!  Not her, also not her husband, or the family of this other man.

nimble_jac was honest enough to open up to us and tell us what was going on, something she has shared with no-one else.  She came here for help.  It's clear from her first post that she knew in her heart of hearts what she really needed to do, to end this affair and concentrate on her family, and if we can help and support her with doing this it is for her benefit, and for the benefit of her family.

Ranting and insulting her (however much you feel it is deserved) doesn't help anyone.  If you can't help, please, just button your lip.