Should I Keep My Other Love or Walk Away?

[nimble_jac]

I am 46, and have been happily married for 25 years with 3 nearly grown kids; have been and still am, wildly in love with my husband.  A year ago, I met a man that I became friends with, then became attracted to.  I grew to love him dearly, and I am "in love" (romantically) with him.
My new man and I have a very deep and healthy, loving & sexual relationship, whereby communication is our first priority.  I cannot see myself without him.  My husband loves me dearly, we make each other very happy and we have an entire life together that I do not wish to change.  He does not know, nor suspect anything.  My other man and I are extremely discreet and sensitive to both our families/spouses.  My OM married young and does not not have a very happy nor fulfilling marriage (his is about 20 years).  He does not wish to leave his partner neither.  We have never been outside our marriages before, so this is no frivilous thing...nor is my question(s).
He and I are so alike, we have so much in common (that we do not have with our spouses) and have such simple, happy fun together.  
Can I honestly maintain this long term double life that we have committed ourselves to?  
Should I walk away from my wonderful OM because it's the "right thing to do", not because it's what makes us happy and complete?  

[catiemarshell00]

well. i think your right about that.

[SeriousSam]

She just needs to leave that poor man and any kids and just keep walking.  No way is that other guy going to REALLY leave his wife.

[catiemarshell00]

i think you should follow your heart..  and make a desetion..and be happy with it.... good  luck

[nimble_jac]

George73, I appreciate your attempt to be understanding.  To get through something like this, will be unbelieveably hard...and I am prepared.  I am human and I will need support.  

The intense comments from the forum are mostly true and I hear them.  
I also I hear the hatred and I hear the condemnation.  This is exactly the best way to put someone(me) on the defensive, encourage them (me) to get angry back.  Wow, not the best way to show the "way".  That just drives people apart...I want assistance.

ok...we all have a voice and we have the right to use it.
Have a good weekend group.

ps.  fung...the "i am attractive" is in response to someone earlier mentioning that being with this guy is making me feel attractive...well, i meant to say that he hasn't made me feel suddenly attractive...I happened to be blessed with enough attractiveness through my lifetime that i didn't get all crazy because of that...

[fung]

I read your earlier post saying  " I am attractive.... have had attention paid to me.. proposals made...". It's clear that you are in age of  second puberty when meeting your OM, trying to proof that you are still attractive to other man but poor you , you got trapped in it and didnt pass successfully.
Right now, you were repeating your 'teen behaviour " -.falling in love ,ready to fight for it- ... but this time in the wrong situation, and with the wrong man .It is obvious that you dont care about you children's future life -having a happy grandparents for their children and as a happy big family in any celebrations. You trade your family's future with this man and you will live your old age alone without your family because they  hate you for what you did.
Wake up and be grown up as you should.

[george73]

I hope your day is going o.k. It will be hard and I hope your husband will be understanding and help you through this. You need to share with him what has been missing in your life so he can help with that also. I'm here for you.