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Spiked drinks
Was my drink spiked? I was at a wedding reception and I was drinking rum with lime on ice. I believe I had 4 drinks
at the reception between 5pm & 10pm, and 2 drinks 2 hours prior to the reception. We had eaten appetizers before the reception and I ate dinner and dessert at the reception. My husband got up and got me a 2nd drink while waiting for the cake to be distributed. After awhile I got up to get a 3rd. We talked near the bar & before walking away I had the bartender top off my drink. That drink literally slipped out of my hand before leaving the bar area. I got another and that one slipped out of my hand at the table. At this point I still felt fine. I have drinks occasionally with friends and periodically have alcohol at home so my body does have some tolerance to alcohol. A friend at our table volunteered to get me another. Again at this point I appeared to be fine. I got up to dance with my son and after that I barely remember anything before leaving, shortly after my dance about 10pm. I do not remember getting into the car or anything after that point other than vomiting in my sleep and only for a split second of consciousness and then remained unconscious until about 7:30 or 8 am. I woke up extremely dizzy & nauseated with a mild headache and looked like I was 20 years older than my age. Does this sound like my drink was spiked.
at the reception between 5pm & 10pm, and 2 drinks 2 hours prior to the reception. We had eaten appetizers before the reception and I ate dinner and dessert at the reception. My husband got up and got me a 2nd drink while waiting for the cake to be distributed. After awhile I got up to get a 3rd. We talked near the bar & before walking away I had the bartender top off my drink. That drink literally slipped out of my hand before leaving the bar area. I got another and that one slipped out of my hand at the table. At this point I still felt fine. I have drinks occasionally with friends and periodically have alcohol at home so my body does have some tolerance to alcohol. A friend at our table volunteered to get me another. Again at this point I appeared to be fine. I got up to dance with my son and after that I barely remember anything before leaving, shortly after my dance about 10pm. I do not remember getting into the car or anything after that point other than vomiting in my sleep and only for a split second of consciousness and then remained unconscious until about 7:30 or 8 am. I woke up extremely dizzy & nauseated with a mild headache and looked like I was 20 years older than my age. Does this sound like my drink was spiked.
elle, it's unlikely that there was footage of the hotel party room. Usually, footage is of the parking lot and front door, and front desk. It also seems a little unlikely that their security would go through hours of footage looking to see if your husband might have slipped something in your drink, since there is no criminal case pending.
Well, if there is abuse going on and you think he is capable of something like that, I think you would be wise to start working torwards getting out of the relationship. Life is far too short to waste your time on someone who is okay with hurting someone they love. You deserve better than that.
Best of luck to you hon!
Best of luck to you hon!
There definitely is a bigger issue here for sure. I have only sctatched the surface. I am not proud of my own abuse of alcohol. But my husband is an intense person and good at his game. There is a history of similar abusive behavior. I wish I could believe it was just the alcohol and you can bet that I learned a big lesson and some. I suppose the only way to know for sure at this point is to view the films footage at the hotel. Thanks for the opinions.
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I just wanted to comment that I think it is highly unusual for someone to go to the extent of putting something in a work colleague's beverage in order to thwart them. That is the stuff out of movies and frankly, insane.
I'm going to offer up something else to think about--- could you possibly be over drinking in general? That you state you have a tolerance to alcohol would indicate you do some drinking on a regular basis. What you describe in terms of drinks you had would cause many a person (especially a woman) to do exactly what you did half way through what you finally had as your drink count for the night. This worries me about your drinking in general
The situation sounds a mess. And since you have this man that really is criminal if he puts drugs into people's drinks in your life----- never drink around him. I'd never want to be off my game in that type of situation. If you can't go with ZERO alcohol around him and pay close attention to your other drinks such as water or diet coke----- you will be fine in the future. Don't give him the opportuity to do that.
I still think you sound like you got wasted. good luck
I'm going to offer up something else to think about--- could you possibly be over drinking in general? That you state you have a tolerance to alcohol would indicate you do some drinking on a regular basis. What you describe in terms of drinks you had would cause many a person (especially a woman) to do exactly what you did half way through what you finally had as your drink count for the night. This worries me about your drinking in general
The situation sounds a mess. And since you have this man that really is criminal if he puts drugs into people's drinks in your life----- never drink around him. I'd never want to be off my game in that type of situation. If you can't go with ZERO alcohol around him and pay close attention to your other drinks such as water or diet coke----- you will be fine in the future. Don't give him the opportuity to do that.
I still think you sound like you got wasted. good luck
In the event someone thinks their drink was spiked, they should go to the nearest ER immediately to be tested, that's the ONLY way you could have known for sure.
I think the bigger issue here is that you THINK your husband would spike your drink in order to get more attention, and keep you from visiting with family so he's in the spotlight. IF he is capable of that, then you need to make some tough decisions. That's awfully extreme, even for a controlling and manipulative person.
If you are truly worried about this...as annie has said, I would exercise some serious caution in that kind of environment. If you have strong suspicions he's spiking your drinks, then you need to get out of the relationship ASAP as he has NO regard for your health and safety.
I too still think your drinks were stronger than usual, and you drank too much...but you have to make that judgement call. There's just NO way to know for sure without a test.
I think the bigger issue here is that you THINK your husband would spike your drink in order to get more attention, and keep you from visiting with family so he's in the spotlight. IF he is capable of that, then you need to make some tough decisions. That's awfully extreme, even for a controlling and manipulative person.
If you are truly worried about this...as annie has said, I would exercise some serious caution in that kind of environment. If you have strong suspicions he's spiking your drinks, then you need to get out of the relationship ASAP as he has NO regard for your health and safety.
I too still think your drinks were stronger than usual, and you drank too much...but you have to make that judgement call. There's just NO way to know for sure without a test.
I agree with Vance when he says it is impossible to know; especially, am wondering what good it would do to know at this point even if you were CERTAIN it had happened as you are wondering. It just means this guy is a good guy not to trust, which you knew already but are now thinking you had better take more seriously. And also that at the next family event, you should only pretend to drink your drink, if he is nearby.
It is impossible to know if someone spiked your drink. Why not just accept that you got drunk? I used to drink and I could hold my own with anyone, but from time to time I would be drunk on 6 beers but other times I would double+ that and not be as bad. Everyday is different.
But again it is an impossible answer to give you.
But again it is an impossible answer to give you.
I replied to one other answer and now yours since u r a nurse. I should have given the circumstances. My husband and I have been separated for over 10 years. We have a son with MR and physically handicapped. My husband was reluctant to include me in his nieces wedding but my son wanted me to go. The wedding was out of state and I have family in that state so I agreed to go with intent to see my family too. My husband is very controlling and manipulative. He is a pathological liar and very good with his social skills. He does not miss a trick! I on the other hand am somewhat of an introvert (getting better) and unfortunately never saw him for who he really is. He always did like to party, was always the last to leave and always had to be the center of attention. My feeling is that he did not want my son or me to ruin his good time so he took us back to the hotel around 10pm and he returned (until 2am). Also his family was having a final get together the day after the wedding which was the same day we intended to visit my family 2 hours away. I was too ill to go. He always did put his family and friends first in our marriage. When I first met him he admitted to me that he intentionally got someone wasted on more than just alcohol in an effort to get his position at work (my husband was next in line, red flag). He also new a nurse who used her ability to administer drugs to him and his friends. Did he spike my drink?
I should have given the circumstances before asking my question.My husband & I have been separated for over 10 years. He is very controlling and manipulative. We have a son with MR & physically handicapped. My husband was reluctant to include me in the wedding but my son wanted me to go. I also had family in the area that I hadn't seen in over 10 years that I thought I could visit while there (out of state). We intended to see my family the day after the wedding and with that would not be able to attend the final get together his family was having that night. My husband likes to be the center of attention and has never missed an opportunity to party. He is also a pathological liar and manipulative. My feeling is that he returned to the wedding after taking me and my son back to the hotel and did not want us to ruin his good time. Needless to say we did not make it to see my family the next day because I was so ill. I am not proud to admit that I have developed a tolerance to alcohol. And on one occasion my husband purposely got someone wasted with more than alcohol in an attempt to sabatoge(sp) his position at work which he admitted to me a long time ago(my husband was next in line).With this information I am only barely touching the surface. Did he spike my drink?
No spiked drink here.
Perhaps you can't drink like you used to? That can happen. Years ago I could drink two glasses of wine and now I can drink only a 1/2 glass in one sitting.
Rum without a mixer is VERY strong. You had rum with lime only.
Perhaps you can't drink like you used to? That can happen. Years ago I could drink two glasses of wine and now I can drink only a 1/2 glass in one sitting.
Rum without a mixer is VERY strong. You had rum with lime only.
Honestly, I think you just got drunk. 4 drinks is plenty and to have more probably just accidentally put you over. Rum is strong and every person mixes their drinks differently.
Definitely sounds like you just got drunk. Rum is a pretty strong drink to drink 4 of in a 5-hour period of time, especially if you usually only drink lightly or don't even drink rum normally. Different drinks affect people differently.
The thing about mixed drinks is sometimes the bartenders don't know what they're doing and they mix them too strong. So instead of having 6 drinks, you may have had an equivalent of 2 oz of liquor in each drink, equalling about 12 drinks.
I agree with the others, it sounds very unlikely that anyone would spike your drink when you were there with your husband. Since you dropped two drinks in a row, it sounds like you were more intoxicated than you realized and still kept drinking.
I agree with the others, it sounds very unlikely that anyone would spike your drink when you were there with your husband. Since you dropped two drinks in a row, it sounds like you were more intoxicated than you realized and still kept drinking.
Six rum drinks even over a 6-hour period is enough without anything being slipped in, especially if you are otherwise a light drinker.
Does this sound like my drink was spiked. .
It sounds like you just got drunk, to be honest. If you would have been drugged with what I'm assuming you're referring to Rohypnol ("Roofies", or the date rape drug), you would have NO memory at all of ANY of the events of the evening, not to mention you would be SO ill to the point of wanting to go to an ER...and likely, for days.
Alcohol can affect you differently at different times due to all kinds of circumstances. Plus, the bartender may have been very generous with the booze. You did have quite a lot to drink.
I wouldn't worry. Next time, maybe ease up a bit on the liquor.
It sounds like you just got drunk, to be honest. If you would have been drugged with what I'm assuming you're referring to Rohypnol ("Roofies", or the date rape drug), you would have NO memory at all of ANY of the events of the evening, not to mention you would be SO ill to the point of wanting to go to an ER...and likely, for days.
Alcohol can affect you differently at different times due to all kinds of circumstances. Plus, the bartender may have been very generous with the booze. You did have quite a lot to drink.
I wouldn't worry. Next time, maybe ease up a bit on the liquor.
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Hm. Well, either that or you just got accidentally hammered. Why would someone choose to spike 'your' drink? You're there with your husband and child so why in heavens name would you be a target? Did it happen to anyone else?
So, not sure but there is also a chance you just got wasted by accident. Hope you didn't do anything too embarressing. ugh. Alcohol can really make great people look silly at times!
So, I'm not sure. good luck
So, not sure but there is also a chance you just got wasted by accident. Hope you didn't do anything too embarressing. ugh. Alcohol can really make great people look silly at times!
So, I'm not sure. good luck
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