Thank you.. you are right.. I guess im mad at the wrong person.. I guess im being selfish taking it against my mother in law.. im going to try my best and get things right. . A mothers love will always have a special place in their childs life. And I need to deal with that.. thank u.. blessings..
Hi there. Welcome. Well, it seems to me that you are mad at the wrong person. Your husband is the one to set the boundary if he and you feel that she is too invasive into your life. It's reasonable to live elsewhere and it very well may help the dynamics of how you and she get along too. She may not be able to afford it but perhaps your husband and you can help her a bit financially. I know it seems like you shouldn't have to but your husband HAS been helping her financially and money isn't everything. If it buys peace of you having your privacy and her being able to live on her own without your husband, then it would be worth it.
But, my guess is that your husband also is quite satisfied with the relationship. I'm sure he didn't just become this mama's boy---- you've been with him for a long time as you have a 9 year old. Why was it okay before and not now? What's changed?
I guess I speak as a mom to sons. I sure hope that my daughter in law doesn't resent ME for my sons love for me or his faults. That does seem unfair. You say she is nice but you are irritated that your husband is attached to her. No one is perfect and I'm sure she has her flaws but what you are really upset about isn't really her fault but your husbands.
I don't think this is worth breaking up your family for. I'd try to come to a compromise with your husband to see if that helps. good luck